Holding at the beginning of the perek. פרק שלושה עשר. Tanya, it says in the ברייתא, מפני מה מתים בנים ובנותיהם של אדם כשהן קטנים? Why is it? It says that by some people, rachmana litzlan, when the children are small they would die. It says, כדי שיבכה שיבכה ויתאבל על אדם כשר. In order for him to cry and be have avelut on a אדם כשר, on a fine person who passes away, he should have avelut for him, should feel bad for him. So because of that, it happens. But the Gemara says, I don't understand, כדי שיבכה? In order he should cry? ערבא שקלי מיניה, are you taking a ערב? He didn't do it yet. מילא, you say he's punishment for not doing something. So to make sure that he's going to do something, so the Aibershter takes away? How can that be? So he says that's that's not what it meant, אלא מפני שלא בכה, because in a case When does this happen? To a person who did not cry, or התאבל על אדם כשר, that he did not cry when a person died, like a fine Yid died, and it didn't bother him, didn't cry, the punishment, chas veshalom, is this inyan. That his children die. שכל הבוכה ומתאבל על אדם כשר, anybody who cries and has אבילות for אדם כשר, מוחלין לו על כל עוונותיו, the Aibershter forgives him. That's such an important thing, it forgives him for all עבירות, בשביל כבוד שעשה, because he gives him kavod. So give kavod to a אדם כשר. Really you're not giving him kavod. Giving him kavod? He's giving kavod, the fact that he's a fine Yid, he did mitzvot. Yeah, yeah, I mean a special, a fine, you know, a fine Yid. What is a fine Yid? Somebody who keeps Torah u'mitzvot. So you're giving kavod not to him, you're giving kavod to the Torah u'mitzvot that he did. So that's Why do you need crying? That's the kavod. Yeah, like crying, feeling bad. You cry twice, does that mean really cry tears? Tears cry, yeah, cry and feel bad and have avelut. Feel bad, cry. And mourning. Keri'ah and mourn. To cry and to mourn, those are the two לשונות in the Gemara. Tanya, it says in the beraita, He

said, רבי שמעון בן אלעזר אומר משום רב שמעון חילפא בן איגרא, שמע משום רבי יוחנן בן נורי, he said like this, המקרע בגדיו בחמתו, if someone tears clothes out of anger, he gets anger angry and tears clothes, והמשבר כליו בחמתו, someone who breaks a כלי, he gets angry and he throws something and it breaks, והמפזר מעותיו בחמתו, if someone throws his money away because he's angry, יהא בעיניך כעובד עבודה זרה, you should look at the guy as if he's worshipping עבודה זרה. Basically, he's worshipping his anger. I mean, if he can't control himself, so he's worshipping something, he's worshipping his anger. Tearing his clothes or Yeah, tearing his clothes, or breaking. שכך אומנותו של יצר הרע. This is how what the yetzer hara does. This is לכאורה this is a small thing. Why is this avodah zarah? Because the end is, he starts with this, end up avodah zarah. This is the the the expertise of a yetzer hara, of the yetzer hara. You don't actually get punished until you actually do the Yeah, so he said you should look in your eyes, you should look at him, cuz you know it's going to bring him to avodah zarah, cuz this is what the yetzer hara does. היום אומר לו עשה כך, today it tells him do this. ולמחר אומר לו עשה כך, tomorrow he says do that, עד שאומר לו לך עבוד עבודה זרה, till he tells him worship עבודה זרה, והולך ועובד, and you go and do it. In

other words, the yetzer hara knows he can't start out with a Yid and tell him, \"Go worship avodah zarah.\" Who's going to listen? Do a small thing, do a small aveirah. \"Okay, a small aveirah you'll listen.\" Then a bigger aveirah, a bigger, and finally do avodah zarah. And I always taytsh this as the Frierdiker Rebbe taytsh's it, the Rebbe brings it, that says, doesn't say היום אומר לו עשה עבירה קטנה. Doesn't say he tells him do a small aveirah. He says, היום אומר לו עשה כך, do this. So the Rebbe says, the pshat is, he even tells him to do a mitzvah. Yetzer hara tells him to do a mitzvah? Why does the yetzer hara want him to do a mitzvah? But the yetzer hara wants to get used that his opinion counts. The yetzer hara's opinion co- Huh? Oh you could know You you could know when it comes to do a mitzvah what your intentions are. If they're prove If they're pure intentions, then you know it's not from the yetzer hara. But the yetzer hara comes, you know, sometimes, \"Eh, do this, you know?\" Sometimes, there's another pshat, that he tells him on an aveirah, doesn't tell him do a small aveirah, he wouldn't listen to that, he tells him on an aveirah that this is really a mitzvah. He tries to convince a person, that could happen, like something that's bad, he tries to, \"In this case, no, this case you got to do it! It's going to help this, it's going to help that.\" That type of a person, he convinces a person that an aveirah is a mitzvah. So that's why, first he tells him עשה כך, do do something which is a mitzvah, then he goes further. But another peshat is, he tells him, \"Do a mitzvah.\" But as long as you know that you need his הסכמה and you know that you need means על פי שכל, the seichel has to help you, that that what happens then? If you get used to that you have to feel good about it or the seichel has to agree, then, eventually, if you do something and the seichel doesn't agree, you won't do it! So what's an example of a mitzvah that I would the yetzer hara, I mean, the yetzer hara's telling me to do? It's a good thing, I have to do a mitzvah. Like shelo lishmah? When? When you someone comes in to help to ask you, you need help and you're learning, the yetzer hara tells you, \"Don't. It's learn! How can you have to learn? Learn Torah. How could you go help the guy? Learn Torah.\" And it told you not to. to yourself, you know, that that's a big mitzvah, and you have all kinds of ראיות, תלמוד תורה כנגד כולם, you have all kinds of things and Oh. שאי אפשר. שאי אפשר yesterday. Yes. שאי אפשר. extra six inches שאי אפשר. Did you find head tearing? Can you see stones? Got ready for something also, that he said also that anyway so. But what? Shema? Huh? For the Baal Shem Tov says yesterday, סרתם ועבדתם. Yeah, that's something else. That's, obviously, that's That's what happened when you can't have chas v'shalom, Hashem. But no, the moment you're not, yeah, that's something else. Not doing Hashem, so you will do avodah zarah, סרתם ועבדתם. But here it teaches it goes slow and it starts off with something good. It's not He's telling you, \"Do do for Hashem.\" But in ואספת? In ואספת? Everybody. In ואספת he says, Yeah, so we got to be careful. At least we know what it is, so we're careful. But don't forget in the yetzer hara in such a time for avodah zarah, avodah zarah was very strong. First of all, in the time of the Gemara already it wasn't. Oh, really? No, this was much before it. Anshei Knesset Hagedolah. It goes back about 500 years before the Gemara that they did this. Oh, really? It's after, but even then, even then when it's ta'avah, the yetzer hara, there are still ta'avot nowadays that they we still have a yetzer hara. Yeah, not for avodah zarah. But the yetzer hara is not going to come to a person, \"Go ahead and do that ta'avah.\" Person has a ta'avah for for for adultery, so the yetzer hara is going to come, who's going to listen? So he starts off slowly, and then finally gets, even if it's a ta'avah, it could be. But besides, this wasn't a ta'avah. So what's the ta'avah for money? Huh? Ta'avah for money? Yeah. Isn't that what replaced avodah zarah? Yeah, that's what the Alter Rebbe said. When they killed the yetzer hara of avodah zarah, so the Alter Rebbe said they replaced it for the ta'avah ta'avah for avodah zarah to the ta'avah of money. And he said, \"Ikh veys nisht tsi men hot gemakht beser.\" What? \"I don't know if it was worth it.\" The Alter Rebbe said that they exchanged it for But then he said, \"I don't know if it was worth it.\" Because that's a very strong Because the ta'avah for money is just as bad as I know if No, who ever had a ta'avah for money Who's got a ta'avah for avodah zarah? A ta'avah for money, 200, 200 The Alter Rebbe was a He maybe said it as a joke, but he said it's terrible. Yeah, it was a joke. They like money. Used to be say עגל הזהב. No, nowadays we have the עגל הזהב. The עגל is for gold, for money. Yeah, the ta'avah for that's very strong. Strong, yeah, yeah, yeah. And still the yetzer hara won't come to a Yid and say, \"Go steal.\" It's a ta'avah to steal cuz I want his money. No, but what if he tells him, \"Go do a business deal instead of...\" Oh, go do something! \"...like instead of davenen, he is going to get a big deal.\" That I mean, all the time. That's, but that, He pushes for that. Yeah, but that's not steal. That's, no, not an aveirah. To do business an aveirah? But instead of learning. No, he says it doesn't, but I thought, I thought it's not the right thing to do like so it's half like, in other words, Depends when. Depends when he's supposed to. Everyone does business deals. Is that a terrible thing to do business deals? It's very good. Halavai! Depends when and depends how. No, but I'm saying, if it's if it's like a time that you shouldn't be doing it. You shouldn't Yeah, like if he does in Shabbos to do business deals, you're not allowed to. אמר רב אבין מאי קרא: Rav Avin said, \"What's the pasuk? Where do we see that that the yetzer hara brings it to avodah zarah? Cuz the pasuk says לא יהיה בך קל זר, so not should not have in you a strange god, ולא תשתחוה לאל נכר, and do not bow down to a strange god. When it says לא יהיה בך אל זר, קל זר, איזהו קל זר שיש בגופו של אדם? It says there shouldn't have in you an avodah zarah. הוי אומר זה יצר הרע. What do we have in us? We have a yetzer hara, and he calls him there shouldn't be an avodah zarah in you. Why? Because the yetzer hara, no matter what, even if you listen to him a little bit, it ends up with avodah zarah. But then that's why if a person throw something, it's a small aveirah to break something when you're angry, but it could bring you. דעביד למירמא אימתא אאינשי ביתיה, but if he does it so that family members should get scared, he sees people aren't the family aren't listening to him, then שרי, that's allowed. כי הא דרב יהודה שלף מצויתא,

Rav Yehuda once took a garment, and out of anger, at least he was showing anger, he pulled out the thread and fell apart. So they should see that that he wants to get their attention. רב אחא בר יעקב תבר מאני תבירא, Rav Acha broke a kli, but he broke a broken kli. It was broken already, but he broke it more. רב ששת רמי לה לאמתיה מגמי ארישא, he took a a a cup of of of vinegar, not vinegar, like the juice of the pickles, and he spilled it on his maid's head. That's allowed? Huh? That's so petty. He Cuz she wasn't listening. On his maid's head? Yeah. Serves her right! רב אבא תבר נכתמא, Rav Abba broke, there was like a cover to a jar, and he took and broke it. Why? Why not allowed to do it? To to have the people be afraid of him, so they'll listen to him. Some of these reach different people to do it at different points.