Parshas Toldos
Why Yaakov agreed to risk a klalah once Rivka offered to bear it herself.
Part of Bereishit
When Yaakov worries that impersonating Esav could bring him a curse instead of a brachah, Rivka's answer — that she'll take the klalah on herself — isn't really about shifting who bears the risk. It's mesirus nefesh modeled out loud, and it's that living example, more than any explanation, that moves Yaakov to go through with getting the brachos.
Audio Transcript
A word from the Rebbe on this week's parsha, parshas Toldos. The Torah tells us that Yitzchak wanted to give Esav a bracha. And Rivka heard about it and she told Yaakov he should go get the brachos. And Yaakov said to his mother, \"What happens if the father is going to touch me and he'll see that I'm not hairy like Esav? And then I won't have a bracha, I will instead have a klalah.\" So, she said to him, \"עלי קללתך בני.\" The klalah, the curse should be on me. \"אך שמע בקלי\" listen to me \"ולך קח לי\" and go take and I'll prepare it, and go and get the brachos. So, obviously, the question that the Rebbe asks here is that what does it mean she said to him, \"I will get the klalah.\" Yaakov said to her that, \"By me doing this, it might bring a klalah.\" So, she said, \"You know what? I take the klalah upon myself.\" How is Yaakov satisfied with that? How could a son not care about his mother? So, he doesn't want the klalah. But if his mother is going to get the klalah, that's okay? And that made him go? What does that mean?
And the Rebbe explains like this that this inyan of getting the bracha from Yitzchak is something very, very special. Chassidus explains what it means that this is going to bring out the birur on the nitzotzos, and elevate the world, etc, etc, etc, ways as in Chassidus. A very important thing. But Yaakov was afraid to go and get it because he was afraid this will bring a klalah, so he's putting himself in danger by going to do this. So, his mother wanted to show him that this is something that you have to go on mesirus nefesh. And she said to him, \"I am giving up my well-being, I'm ready to take the klalah.\" By doing that, she showed him that, \"I am ready to go on mesirus nefesh.\" And that brought out within Yaakov that he should also be ready to go on mesirus nefesh and go do it. And that's why she said it and he accepted it. It wasn't that she was saying, \"I'll get the klalah and that's okay.\" She meant to show that, \"I'm ready to take the klalah in order for this to happen because if this is something important, I will go on mesirus nefesh.\" And from that, Yaakov learned that this is something so important that you have to go on mesirus nefesh and he also went to get the brachos. So, from here we see that the job of a parent, a father, in this case, a mother, is to show the children that for the right thing to do, for things which are important according to Torah and to Yiddishkeit, you have to go on mesirus nefesh. So, you want the children to do it and they should feel Yiddishkeit is so important, but the way to do it is to show a living example. So, when Rivka showed a living example that she said, \"I'm ready to do it. I'm ready to go on mesirus nefesh.\" That's what brought out within Yaakov that he was also ready to go on mesirus nefesh and he actually did it and got the brachos and these are the brachos that we have for all generations and when the brachos will be fulfilled, that's when Moshiach will come בקרוב ממש.