Hashem never said this guy, and each individual who made the Yidden work chose. If he wouldn't choose, there would be another way. The Eibershter would make it happen, but you chose, that's what. Anyways, zogt di Gemara vayter, תנו רבנן, the רבנן taught like this: מי שחלה ונטה למות, if someone is sick, God forbid, and he is dying, אומרים לו, we say to him, התודה, say vidui. שכל המומתין מתודין, because in the בית המקדש, not in the time of the בית המקדש, when בית דין would kill, before they would kill a person, when he deserves to be killed, they would tell him, \"Say vidui, confess.\" So from there we see that a person before he dies should confess, and this is unfortunately many times people at that stage already not conscious, and they don't know what it's good, but if they are. Actually, you saw in on COL, this bachur who died, a bachur from from Morristown, a twenty-eight-year-old bachur, yeah, yeah, two days ago. I think Shavuos night, actually, Friday night. A talmid of my son, a nice guy. So Friday after No, he was sick already for a for a while, and anyway, so my son was with him Friday, and he said vidui. He wanted to say vidui. He was With your son? Who's with Chaim in Morristown. So the rabbi says it? Well, yeah, I guess he told him what to say, and he said. What

What do they say? Well, shama there's a whole in the siddur, in Shaar Hakollel Siddur, there he has. Is it the one we say, the long one from at night? No, no, it's different. It's a different lashon, it's a completely different lashon. Because it says in קבלה ספרים that right before a person dies the yetzer hara or the Satan or whatever name we'll give the guy comes to the person, he says now throws in מחשבות now of כפירה, denying Hashem. The last minute, he wants at least the last minute denying Hashem. So that's why you have to be very strong at that time. So by saying vidui, part of the vidui, I think, says against the yetzer hara. In which siddur? It's not in our regular siddur? Not in regular siddur, but in the Shaar Hakollel Siddur, the the Torah Or Siddur. Torah Or Siddur, which is And the big siddurim might have it? No, only the only the only the Torah Torah Or Siddur. The בית דין would urge people to to say vidui? Not urge, force them. Force them? How can you force someone on their deathbed, how can you force them? Force them. What, they're not on their deathbed, they're they're not sick. בית דין is killing them. Oh. You hear him right. You said that if a person, if there are no witnesses at a Still has to go, but nobody's going to send him there, why should he run? But he still has to go. He has to go, but he's not going to do it. Who wants to go to an עיר מקלט to stay there? So if you have to, you're afraid that the גואל הדם or the guy, then you go, but no one saw, no one knows, so that was that. Yeah, but this is a very small one. Yeah, in this siddur they have vidui. A very small thing, theirs is much longer. Here also they have vidui. It's a different nusach. וידוי של שכיב מרע. Confession on the deathbed. Confession of No, this is not Lubavitch. Ashkenaz. Ashkenaz. But in Lubavitch, in Torah Or Siddur, there you have a whole thing from the Alter Rebbe. תנו רבנן, the רבנן taught like this: מי שחלה ונטה No, we're through that. אדם יוצא לשוק, a person, you should know an example, a person goes out into the street. Now,

when you're outside there in the world, you don't know what's going to happen to you. חס ושלום, you cross the street, a car flashes here, you find people, people can start up with you, I mean, God forbid. So יהי דומה בעיניו, you have to imagine, כמי שנמסר לסרדיוט, that you are now at the point as if you're going to, let's call it a goyishe court, you're being given over to a goyishe officer to be judged, and you don't know what the outcome is going to be. So you have to be nervous. And what do you do then if this would happen? You daven, Eibershter, please protect me. So you've got to do that when you cross the street. In simply, in our words, if you cross the street, you have to look at it as if you're being given over to this judge. Don't go outside. Go outside and daven. חש בראשו, if it took a little step further, not only you might, something might happen, you have a headache, something is happening to you, something not normal is happening to you, יהי דומה בעיניו כמי שנתנוהו בקולר. That should be already this is already a step further. Step further when you're already being put into a cell or in chains. עלה למטה ונפל, you went onto the bed and you fell, in other words something worse than a headache happened, יהי דומה בעיניו כמי שעלוהו לגרדום. You have to imagine as if they're taking you to be hanged. You're already there. And what do you do then? Then you really daven to the Eibershter, \"Please help me.\" So here also, שעלוהו לגרדום לידון. It's not you're going to be hanged, you're going, getting to this last stage of the case. שכל העולים לגרדום לידון, anybody who's taken to that stage to be judged, so here you're a very slight chance to come out innocent. אם יש לו פרקליטין גדולים, only if you have a lot of great lawyers, not lawyers, lawyers, a defense, that sort of a defense, ניצול, and You'll be saved. אם לאו, if you don't have a lot, סתם אז אינו ניצול, so you have to feel that way. So what are the defenses of a person? אלו הן פרקליטין, these are the defenses של אדם, of a איד, תשובה, מעשים טובים. If you do that, you're protected. Have a lot of good friends to pray for you. Huh? That also? Yeah. Yeah, praying. Yeah, praying, other people's prayers. But your own yourself, what should you do? You know, you should daven. In a certain situation you can't even think, you're delirious or everything else like that. Yeah, that's what other people are for, yeah. Because if you

do תשובה, מעשים טובים, then what will happen is like this, אפילו תתקצ״ט מלמדים עליו חובה, if you have 999 מלאכים who are prosecuting you, speaking against you, ואחד מלמד עליו זכות, and you have only one מלאך out of a thousand that will find a זכות, if you did תשובה, מעשים טובים, they'll accept that one. If no מלאך even says, then there's no no no defense. But if you have, you do תשובה, מעשים טובים, then Hashem will overlook the 999 מלאכים who are prosecuting and will take the one that's that's שנאמר, he quotes the פסוק, as we say there, אם יש עליו מלאך מליץ אחד מני אלף, if you have a malach, that's a melitz, means a defender, one out of a thousand, להגיד לאדם ישרו, ויחננו, that to tell the person that you're right. ויאמר פדעהו מרדת שחת, and the malach says, save him from going down to Gehinnom, the Eibershter will listen. One out of a thousand. רבי אלעזר בנו של רבי יוסי הגלילי אומר, רבי אלעזר בנו של רבי יוסי הגלילי says, not only 999 malachim against one מלאך, אפילו תשע מאות ותשעים ותשעה באותו מלאך לחובה ואחד לזכות. The malach himself, the rest, all of them say against him. Even the malach, the good malach, has 999 reasons why he's guilty, but he has one reason himself why he is innocent, so natzol, he will be saved if you do teshuvah, maasim tovim. Shenemar, it says, מליץ אחד מני אלף, there's one, not one malach, one melitz, meaning one good word, one good defense against a thousand, against nine, 909, one out of a thousand, even in the same person will save him. So it pays to do teshuvah, I guess, maasim tovim. Looks like it's worth it. Huh? That's what they say. Well, this is confirming you confirming it. Now it's confirmed. Zogt di

גמרא vayter, תניא, it says in a beraisa, רבן שמעון בן גמליאל אומר, רבן שמעון בן גמליאל says, הלכות הקדש, תרומות ומעשרות, הן הן גופי תורה. The halachos of הקדש, when you're מקדיש something, you make it holy for the בית המקדש, for the בדק הבית, for the fund of the upkeep of the בית המקדש, and terumah, taking of terumah, taking of maaser, these are such major halachos of Torah. You take a קרבן הקדש before you you make Yeah, that's that's one type of הקדש, yeah. You have to say something. You can't just bring it inside. True, true, yeah. But we're talking bichlal, if a person takes an object and says, let this be הקדש. So this becomes הקדש, and all kinds of dinim. And there are so in so many details to know these דינים, ונמסרו לעמי הארץ, that was given over even to עמי הארצים. Every yid has to take off terumah umaaser. Every yid has is able to make הקדש. So it's given over to people who don't know. It's a shame, he says, that so many people don't know when it's such a major inyan in Torah. Tanya, it says in another ברייתא, רב נתן

אומר, Rav Natan says, בעון נדרים מתה אשתו של אדם, for the sin of transgressing nedarim, not keeping your vows, chas veshalom, a person's wife will die. Wife? שנאמר, it says, אם אין לך לשלם למה יקח משכבך מתחתיך. Says, listen, if you don't want to pay, in other words, you make a a a neder to bring a korban or whatever, other kinds of neder, and you're not able to keep it, don't make the neder. Why do something that will cause that the Eibershter will take your your mishkav, your your your bed under you? So what does that refer to? The Eibershter will take your wife under your wife away from you. Why? Because you're not keeping your neder. So we see from here that for not keeping a neder. That's why נדרים בכלל by Yidden was known such a important not to make any nedarim. There are some people who constantly, you know, curse. When I say curse, I don't mean saying bad words, curse they make a neder. That the Hashem should hope, he says, or on himself he says, I'm telling you the truth, if I don't tell the truth, I should die. I mean people say that. Simply just making a promise that you don't keep, you know, like saying bli neder. Yeah, I'm saying always say bli neder. And there are some people who are not careful, who are not careful and they say it, and you've got to be very careful.

Whenever we learn this Gemara, I always tell you the story with this lady that came to me. I'll tell it again. Once a lady called me up from from airport, she's stopping from Argentina, she has to go into New York, but she stopped here for a few hours. She wants to come to my house to be מתיר נדר. So she came to the house and what was the story? So she said she lived downstairs, her in-laws lived upstairs, and she used to always go up and help her mother-in-law, and into a fight or something, and she made a neder not to go upstairs anymore. And she said, \"I make a neder that if I go up, I should become blind.\" So much so. After a while, she made up with her. And she didn't care about the neder, and then she started going up. And she says she's losing her eyesight. So she wants to be מתיר נדר. Before one rav you can be מתיר נדר? No. So I called in a few of my neighbors, and we were מתיר נדר her. I don't know what happened to her, I never heard of her again, I don't know where she is. Lady, ספרדישע lady. You see, you don't play around with nedarim. In Gemara, Caesarea, Jewish Caesarea, 2,000 villages it's like They're all destroyed. The people in those villages made nedarim and kept them. That's that's another deraga that you shouldn't make nedarim even if you keep them. You shouldn't make nedarim in the first place. Yeah. You shouldn't make nedarim. But not to keep? פה פה That's על פי קבלה it says, look at the siddur, the whole reason why the דרג of neder doesn't apply now: ולכן אומרים על כל דבר בלי נדר. That's why we have to say on everything bli neder.

What if a person makes a נדר, but then he gets sick or something, he can't You have to be מתיר נדר. That's מתיר נדר. You have to That's that's how you How can he be מתיר נדר? מתיר נדר is you find a פתח חרטה, that means you find a reason, like saying, \"Had I known I'd be sick, I'd never make a נדר.\" That's the reason to be מתיר נדר, but you have to be מתיר נדר. Same thing when you do something good three times, even if you didn't make it as a נדר, it becomes like a נדר. And if for some reason you have to change it, even if it was good you have to be מתיר נדר, you have to It's not with permission, it's מתיר נדר. You find a reason why that wasn't really part of that that didn't include wasn't included. What about the shul? They say התורם לצדקה, is a נדר? So first of all, you should say bli neder, and they say and they say בלי Even if you don't, it's known that it's bli neder. But best thing to do I think in this siddur No, in the other siddur they printed bli neder. This siddur I don't know. But in the other Israeli siddur, by the tapes of the they it's printed, it says bli neder. Oh, this one, it says for sure. This one I I didn't look up, but here I know they did that. I'll show you. Yeah. Yeah, here. מי שברך וירפאהו בעבור ש this and this person יתן בלי נדר לצדקה בעבורו. Here also, מי שברך לחולה, this יתן בלי נדר לצדקה. When a son, a child is born, מי שברך על אשה יולדת ונולד לה ולד בעבור שבעלה ואביו יתן בלי נדר לצדקה בעדם. And it says a mareh makom at the bottom, why should you say bli neder? על פי הגהות צמח צדק, from the Tzemach Tzedek. Is there is there an idea that you come back in the next gilgul to fulfill all the promises you didn't keep? In halacha that doesn't work. That has to do with kabbalah. What's the connection between נדר and the wife or your wife? Because biklal by a wife we find a din that a person could nullify her נדרים, so there is some some But בעל הבית שקיבל עליו A husband can A husband could nullify נדרים of his wife. I know, so mimeila there is some connection in נדרים between husband and wife, that's like a a bond that's between them. Remind me again and again about the shiur tonight. So what's the problem to come back in a