The Mitzvah of Visiting the Sick -- And When Not To
The Mitzvah of Visiting the Sick -- And When Not To
Part of Halacha, Hashkafa and Parenting · 16:36
Halachos of bikur cholim: why there's no limit on who should visit whom, Rava's advice on when to hide an illness, and the cases where visiting is actually discouraged.
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转谞讬讗, it says in the 讘专讬讬转讗: 讘讬拽讜专 讞讜诇讬诐 讗讬谉 诇讛 砖讬注讜专. To visit the sick, there is no limit. The 讙诪专讗 asks: 诪讗讬 讗讬谉 诇讛 砖讬注讜专? What do you mean there is no limit? 住讘专 专讘 讬讜住祝 诇诪讬诪专, 专讘 讬讜住祝 thought, 讗讬谉 诇讬- that means 讗讬谉 砖讬注讜专 诇诪转谉 砖讻专讛 讗诪专讜. What they said was that there is no limit to how much reward you get for 讘讬拽讜专 讞讜诇讬诐. 讗诪专 诇讬讛 讗讘讬讬, 讗讘讬讬 said: 讜讘讻诇 讛诪爪讜讜转 诪讬 讬砖 砖讬注讜专 诇诪转谉 砖讻专谉? And all other 诪爪讜讜转 there is a limit to how much 砖讻专 you get? 讜讛转谞谉, it says, it says in the 诪砖谞讛: 讛讜讬 讝讛讬专 讘诪爪讜讛 拽诇讛 讻讘诪爪讜讛 讞诪讜专讛, should be careful with a light 诪爪讜讛 like with a strict 诪爪讜讛, 砖讗讬谉 讗转讛 讬讜讚注 诪转谉 砖讻专谉 砖诇 诪爪讜讜转, because you never know the reward that given for 诪爪讜讜转. So we see that there is no limit to- It doesn't mean because it's a small 诪爪讜讛 you get less reward. 讗诇讗 讗诪专 讗讘讬讬, 讗讘讬讬 said, what does it mean that 讘讬拽讜专 讞讜诇讬诐 has no 砖讬注讜专? 砖讗讬谉 讗转讛 讗讬谉 讗转讛- No. 讗诪专 讗讘讬讬: 讗驻讬诇讜 讙讚讜诇 讗爪诇 拽讟谉. That's what it means. There is no 砖讬注讜专 who's to go to who. We think a 讞砖讜讘 person doesn't have to go to a simple person. There's no 砖讬注讜专. Even a 讙讚讜诇 to go to a simple person should go, the 诪爪讜讛 is there too. What is 讗讬谉 诇讛 砖讬注讜专? Talking about 讗讬谉 诇讛 砖讬注讜专. What's the 驻砖讟 there is no 砖讬注讜专? 专讘讗 讗诪专, 专讘讗 says: 讗驻讬诇讜 诪讗讛 驻注诪讬诐 讘讬讜诐. What it means 讗讬谉 诇讛 砖讬注讜专, there's you could go and you could go again, you can 100 times. You can't say I was 讬讜爪讗. It's like once a day you have to go and then you're 讬讜爪讗 the 诪爪讜讛. Like you have to bentch esrog once a day. No, even 100 times. 讜转谞讬讗 谞诪讬 讛讻讬, actually it says in the 讘专讬讬转讗: 讘讬拽讜专 讞讜诇讬诐 讗讬谉 诇讛 砖讬注讜专, and it 讟讬讬讟砖 what it means:
讗驻讬诇讜 讙讚讜诇 讗爪诇 拽讟谉, even a 讙讚讜诇 by a 拽讟谉, 讗驻讬诇讜 诪讗讛 驻注诪讬诐 讘讬讜诐, even 100 times a day. 讗诪专 专讘 讗讞讗 讘专 讞谞讬谞讗, 专讘 讗讞讗 讘专 讞谞讬谞讗 said: 讻诇 讛诪讘拽专 讗转 讛讞讜诇讛, anybody who visits the sick, 谞讜讟诇 讗讞讚 诪砖砖讬诐 诪爪注专讜. You take away 1/60 of his pain. 讗诪专 诇讬讛 讗讘讬讬 诇专讘讗, 讗讘讬讬 said to 专讘讗: 讗诐 讻谉, if so, have a easy 讬讜爪讗 to cure a guy. 诇讬注诇讜 砖讬转讬谉 讙讘专讬 讜诇讬讜拽诪讜讛. Let 60 people come in, and then they'll get rid of the whole thing. What's the If everyone every person gets rid of a 60th? 讗诪专 诇讬讛, so he said, no, 讻注讬砖讜专讬讬转讗 讚专讘讬 讜讘谞讬 讙讬诇讜. When it says everyone is a 60th, it's not just that yeah, whatever is left over, like the case of 专讘讬, and also besides that, it's only if a person was born under the same 诪讝诇, the same day, under the same time, under the same 诪讝诇. What does 注讬砖讜专讬讬转讗 讚专讘讬 say? You have to attend if you go, if you Where does Where does it say? In the 讙诪专讗 here. We just read. 讘谞讬 讙讬诇讜 means he's a 诪讝诇. What's 注讬砖讜专讬讬转讗 讚专讘讬? What does it mean the the 讞砖讘讜谉 of 专讘讬? 'Cause 专讘讬 讗讜诪专, it says like this, 专讘讬 holds in a different 讚讬谉, but the idea is brought out: 讛讘讗讛 诇讬讝讜谉 诪谞讻住讬 讗讞讬谉. It talks there about the father dies, and he leaves over estate. The daughter, the son, only sons inherit. The daughters have to get money from the estate, enough money to get married. How much do you give them? So it says if she is supported by the estate of the brothers, which is the father, so she takes, 谞讜讟诇转 注讬砖讜专 谞讻住讬诐, she gets a 10th of the possessions. That's what the 讻诇诇 is. So 讗诪专讜 诇专讘讬, they said to 专讘讬: 诇讚讘专讬讱, according to that, 诪讬 砖讬砖 诇讜 注砖专 讘谞讜转 讜讘谉 讗讞讚, the guy has 10 daughters and one son, 讗讬谉 诇讜 诇讘谉 讘诪拽讜诐 讘谞讜转 讻诇讜诐, the son gets nothing, 'cause all 10 take away, and there's nothing left. 讗诪专 诇讛诐, so he said: No, 讻讱 讗谞讬 讗讜诪专, this what I'm saying. 专讗砖讜谞讛 谞讜讟诇转 注讬砖讜专 谞讻住讬诐, first one takes the 10th. The oldest, yeah, takes 10th, that's $100, she gets $10. 砖谞讬讛 讘诪讛 砖砖讬讬专讛, the second one takes 10th of what was left. 90 was left, she only gets nine. 砖诇讬砖讬转 讘诪讛 砖砖讬讬专讛, now that she only gets nine, there's left eight and a eight and a 8 1, 8.1, so you get and then after everyone gets after the other, then 讜讞讜讝专讜转 讜讞讜诇拽讜转 讘砖讜讛, and then you put it all together, and then you divide it into 10. So there'd always be left. The 讙诪专讗's 砖讗诇讛 was there'll be nothing left for the son. Same thing here So so there will be left because not that if they all take 10% of the 100. Same thing here also. The first one takes away a 60th. The second one takes a 60th not of the whole thing, of what's left. And the next one a 60th of what what's left. So it's very far in order to take away everything. Besides that, it has to be 讘谞讬 讙讬诇讜. It has to be only somebody born under the same 诪讝诇. Take away 60th of his of his sickness. Why? That's what 讘讬拽讜专 讞讜诇讬诐 the 住讙讜诇讛 of 讘讬拽讜专 讞讜诇讬诐. What's the 驻砖讟 that we we distract Maybe that's the 讙诪专讗 later. Oh yeah? Something, I don't know if that's what you mean, we'll see soon. That's not actually actual sickness, but just the the focus on the sickness at the time that he's Oh, the 讙诪专讗 says later, certain times you shouldn't come, because when you come, you'll take away his focus on the sickness, not only sickness, sometimes the beginning of the day, and then 诪诪讬诇讗, if he won't focus on the sickness, he's not going to 讚讗讜讜注谉 to the 讗讬讬讘注专砖讟注专. We'll get that in the 讙诪专讗 not later, I don't know if we'll get to it today. 讝讗讙讟 讚讬 讙诪专讗, 专讘 讞诇讘讜 讞诇砖, 专讘 讞诇讘讜 got sick. 谞驻拽, 讗讻专讝 专讘 讻讛谞讗, so 专讘 讻讛谞讗 went out, made an announcement, 专讘 讞诇讘讜 讘讬砖, 专讘 讞诇讘讜 is sick. 讜诇讗 讗讬讻讗 讚拽讗转讬, and no one came. Expected people to come to 诪讘拽专 讞讜诇讛, no one came. 讗诪专 诇讛讜, so he said to the people, 诇讗 讻讱 讛讬讛 诪注砖讛 讘转诇诪讬讚 讗讞讚, wasn't, don't you know the story what happened with a certain 转诇诪讬讚, 诪转诇诪讬讚讬 专讘讬 注拽讬讘讗, 砖讞诇讛, got sick, 讜诇讗 谞讻谞住讜 讞讻诪讬诐 诇讘拽专讜, 讞讻诪讬诐 didn't visit him, 讜谞讻谞住 专讘讬 注拽讬讘讗 诇讘拽专讜, 专讘讬 注拽讬讘讗 himself came in to to visit him, 讜讘砖讘讬诇 砖讻讬讘讚 讜专讬讘抓 诇驻谞讬讜, 讞讬讛. And because he helped him out, was dirty, so he cleaned up the floor when he was there, and that made him live. 讗诪专 诇讬讛, so the 转诇诪讬讚 said, 专讘讬, 讛讞讬讬转谞讬, you gave me 讞讬讜转. 讬爪讗 专讘讬 注拽讬讘讗 讜讚专砖, so 专讘讬 注拽讬讘讗 came out and 讚专砖'谞讟, 讻诇 砖讗讬谞讜 诪讘拽专 讗转 讛讞讜诇讛 讻讗讬诇讜 砖讜驻讱 讚诪讬诐. Because if by 诪讘拽专 讞讜诇讛 you could save his life, you can make give him 讞讬讜转, so if you don't, you're you're not you're not giving him 讞讬讜转, so it's like murder. Strong words. Huh? Strong words. 讻讬 讗转讗 专讘 讚讬诪讬, when 专讘 讚讬诪讬 came, 讗诪专, he said, 讻诇 讛诪讘拽专 讗转 讛讞讜诇讛, 讙讜专诐 诇讜 砖讬讞讬讛. If you visit the sick, you cause him to live. 讜讻诇 砖讗讬谞讜 诪讘拽专 讗转 讛讞讜诇讛, 讙讜专诐 诇讜 砖讬诪讜转. If you don't, you cause him to die. 驻专注讙讟 讚讬 讙诪专讗, 诪讗讬 讙专诪讗? What is it that you cause him to die? 讗讬诇讬诪讗, you'll say the reason is like this, 讻诇 讛诪讘拽专 讗转 讛讞讜诇讛 诪讘拽砖 注诇讬讜 专讞诪讬诐. Why does 讘讬拽讜专 讞讜诇讬诐 make the guy live? Because you see how sick he is, you'll 讚讗讜讜注谉, and 诪诪讬诇讗, 砖讬讞讬讛, so you ask the 讗讬讬讘注专砖讟注专 he should live. 讜砖讗讬谞讜 诪讘拽专 讗转 讛讞讜诇讛, 诪讘拽砖 注诇讬讜 专讞诪讬诐 砖讬诪讜转? And the one that is not, doesn't go, so you make him die? Why, you're 讚讗讜讜注谞讬谞讙 he should die? 砖讬诪讜转, 住诇拽讗 讚注转讱? 住诇拽讗 讚注转讱? What you think? What did he mean? Yeah, yeah, yeah, no, but you don't see really what to 讚讗讜讜注谉. If you see him how sick he is, you'll 讚讗讜讜注谉. No, 讗讬谞讜 讚讜诪讛 砖诪讬注讛 诇专讗讬讛. 讗诇讗, he said, meant something else. 讻诇 砖讗讬谞讜 诪讘拽专 讗转 讛讞讜诇讛, if you don't 诪讘拽专 讞讜诇讛, 讗讬谉 诪讘拽砖 注诇讬讜 专讞诪讬诐 诇讗 砖讬讞讬讛 讜诇讗 砖讬诪讜转. You don't ask... So 专砖''讬 explains, the 谞专讗讛 诇讬 专砖''讬 says, 谞专讗讛 讘注讬谞讬, sometimes, it says, you should 讚讗讜讜注谉 the person should die. If you see the person is very sick and he's suffering a lot, yeah, so at least get out of the 爪注专. You can't do anything, 讞住 讜砖诇讜诐, to, but, but to 讚讗讜讜注谉. Actually, the 讙诪专讗 we learned before told the story of 专讘讬, that his maid, was it 专讘讬, saw how he was suffering, 讛砖驻讞讛 砖诇 讘讬转 专讘讬, saw how much he was suffering, and it was could not, not possible to put on 转驻讬诇讬谉, so she 讚讗讜讜注谞讚 to the 讗讬讬讘注专砖讟注专 to take him away. First she 讚讗讜讜注谞讚 to live, and then she saw how much he was suffering, she 讚讗讜讜注谞讚. So here like this, if you go in to a person to 诪讘拽专 讞讜诇讛, then you'll see. You'll see if he if he's not suffering, you'll 讚讗讜讜注谉 he should live. If you see he's suffering, you'll you'll 讚讗讜讜注谉 he should die, but you'll 讚讗讜讜注谉 for his 讟讜讘讛. If you don't go, you won't 讚讗讜讜注谉. That's what he meant. He doesn't mean to say he'll die, but then you won't 讚讗讜讜注谉 for him to die if you have to. You won't 讚讗讜讜注谉 for him to live either. 讝讗讙讟 讚讬 讙诪专讗 讜讜讬讬讟注专:
专讘讗, 讬讜诪讗 拽诪讗, 专讘讗 the first day of 讞讜诇讬讜, the first day he was sick, 讗诪专 诇讛讜, he told his 转诇诪讬讚讬诐, 诇讗 转讙诇讜 诇讗讬谞砖讬. So saying our 讚讗讜讜注谞讬谞讙 by not seeing him is not not worth anything? Not worth much. No, you have to go see him. It's worth, but not as much. But if you if you don't go in, you will not 讚讗讜讜注谉 either way. Not 讚讗讜讜注谉 as you should, because you might hear hear how he's sick, but you don't see him. 专讘讗 the first day that he got sick, 讗诪专, he said, 诇讗 转讙诇讜 诇讗讬谞砖讬, don't tell anybody, 讚诇讗 诇讬转专注 诪讝诇讬, my 诪讝诇 shouldn't be ruined. 诪讻讗谉 讜讗讬诇讱 讗诪专 诇讛讜, In other words, he doesn't want to acknowledge that he's sick. Always say that sometimes people come over, want to make a 诪讬 砖讘专讱 for this and this guy. Says, what's wrong? He has a cold. He said, don't make. Says, why not? 诪讬 砖讘专讱 拽注谉 讚讗讱 谞讬砖讟 砖讗讟谉, what could it hurt? No, no, it could hurt. By making a 诪讬 砖讘专讱 by the 注诇讬讛 for a 讞讜诇讛, you're acknowledging this guy is sick. You're you're you're saying he's sick. We don't want we don't want to agree to that. A cold is a cold. Making a 诪讬 砖讘专讱 here... So he didn't want they should announce it. But after, 诪讻讗谉 讜讗讬诇讱, he he stayed more than a day, 讗诪专 诇讛讜, he said to them like 驻讜拽讜 讗讻专讬讝讜 讘砖讜拽讗, go make an announcement that I'm sick, that 专讘讗 讞诇讬砖, that 专讘讗 is sick. What will I gain? So, like this: 讚住谞讗讬 诇讬, those that hate me, 诇讬讞讚讬, will be happy. Now, if they're happy, it'll help me. Why? 讻转讬讘, it says, 讘谞驻讜诇 讗讜讬讘讱 讗诇 转砖诪讞, when your enemy falls, don't be happy. Why? 讜讘讻砖诇讜 讗诇 讬讙诇 诇讘讱, if he stumbles, don't be happy, 驻谉 讬专讗讛 讛砖诐 讜专注 讘注讬谞讬讜 讜讛砖讬讘 诪注诇讬讜 讗驻讜. That it says that if the guy is happy for someone's downfall, the 讗讬讬讘注专砖讟注专 will take and make the other guy, take it away from you and put it to him. So, if they know I'm sick and so my enemy is happy, so the 讗讬讬讘注专砖讟注专 take away my sickness! Now, 讜讚专讞诪讬 诇讬, one, the more enemies the better then when you're sick. No, but 讜讚专讞诪讬 诇讬, those that like me, also good, 诇讘注讬 注诇讬 专讞诪讬, they know I'm sick, they'll 讚讗讜讜注谉. Hard to imagine these 讗诪讜专讗讬诐 had enemies. I'm sure they did. Yeah, no, the great 注诐 讛讗专爪讬诐, they had they hated the 转诇诪讬讚讬 讞讻诪讬诐 in those days, it was 诪诪砖 terrible. And especially 专讘讗, it says 专讘讗 was in 诪转讗 诪讞住讬讗, he lived in 诪讞住讬讗. And you know, other people, yeah, think it's a new thing that people don't like the 专讘谞讬诐, don't like... It's always was.
讗诪专 专讘, 专讘 said, 讻诇 讛诪讘拽专 讗转 讛讞讜诇讛, whoever visits the sick, 谞讬爪诇 诪讚讬谞讛 砖诇 讙讬讛谞诐, is saved from the 讚讬谉 of 讙讬讛谞诐. 砖谞讗诪专, it says, 讗砖专讬 诪砖讻讬诇 讗诇 讚诇 讘讬讜诐 专注讛 讬诪诇讟讛讜 讛砖诐. Good is the person who's smart about a 讚诇, we'll see what a 讚诇 is, the day of bad, 讛砖诐 will save him. 讗讬谉 讚诇 讗诇讗 讞讜诇讛, 讚诇 is a sick man. 砖谞讗诪专, it says 诪讚诇讬 讬讘爪注谞讬, 讛砖诐, save me or take me away from being a 讚诇. 讚诇 really means a poor man, but sick is also someone who's missing. And what does the 驻住讜拽 say? That someone who understands the 讚诇, so when the 讬讜诐 专注讛 comes, he'll be saved. What's the 讬讜诐 专注讛? 讬讜诐 专注讛 is 讙讬讛谞诐. It's going to say right, you know another 驻住讜拽 where it says shows that 讚诇 is a sick man, 诪讛讚讬谉 拽专讗, from this 驻住讜拽: 诪讚讜注 讗转讛 讻讻讛 讚诇 讘谉 讛诪诇讱. It says in 砖诪讜讗诇, he said why are you so so sick? You look so sick. So, it says if you're 诪砖讻讬诇 to a sick person, you will be saved from 专注. 讜讗讬谉 专注 讗诇讗 讙讬讛谞诐, 专注 is 讙讬讛谞诐, 砖谞讗诪专, it says, 讻诇 驻注诇 讛砖诐 诇诪注谞讛讜 讜讙诐 专砖注 诇讬讜诐 专注讛, a 专砖注 will go to a 讬讜诐 专注讛, goes to 讙讬讛谞诐. So, the 驻住讜拽 says that if you are 诪讘拽专 讞讜诇讛, you'll be saved from 讙讬讛谞诐. How does the 转谞讬讗... 转谞讬讗 brings that 驻住讜拽. Yeah, how does it go? I can't think... Whatever 讛砖诐 does is for Him. 讛砖诐 will help you if you do something for Him. And a 专砖注 will go to a 讬讜诐 专注讛. 讞讬讬诐, the 转谞讬讗 讟讬讬讟砖讟 different, though. 讜讙诐 专砖注, it's also, a 专砖注, 诇讬讜诐 专注讛, he takes 专注, 拽诇讬驻讛, and makes it into 讬讜诐. That's 诪讛驻讱 讞砖讜讻讗 诇谞讛讜专讗. That's why it says there's 诪讟注诪讬诐, there's two types of food. There's one food that's 诇讻转讞讬诇讛 tasty, and there's one food that's sour, but you add stuff to it, you make it, that's even tastier. So, a 专砖注 that changes the 专注 into 讬讜诐, that's even greater, because 驻注诇 讛砖诐 诇诪注谞讛讜 is a 爪讚讬拽. 讜讗诐 讘讬拽专, 诪讛 砖讻专讜? So, says if you 诪讘拽专 讞讜诇讛, you're safe from 讙讬讛谞诐. And if you 诪讘拽专 him, what's the 砖讻专? Someone said, what what's your 砖讗诇讛, 诪讛 砖讻专讜? The 讙诪专讗, we just said what the 砖讻专 is, 谞讬爪诇 诪讚讬谞讛 砖诇 讙讬讛谞诐. He's safe from 讙讬讛谞诐! 讗诇讗 诪讛 砖讻专讜 讘注讜诇诐 讛讝讛? He's safe from 讙讬讛谞诐, that's of 讬注谞注专 讜讜注诇讟, that's in 注讜诇诐 讛讘讗. What's the 砖讻专 here? So, he answers, 讛砖诐 讬砖诪专讛讜 讜讬讞讬讬讛讜, 讛砖诐 protects him, gives him 讞讬讜转, 讬讗讜砖专 讘讗专抓, he's established in the land, 讜讗诇 转转谞讛讜 讘谞驻砖 讗讜讬讘讬讜, he will not give him over to the enemies. Now, what does this 驻住讜拽 mean? 讛砖诐 讬砖诪专讛讜, 诪讬爪专 讛专注, saves him 讬爪专 讛专注. 讬讞讬讬讛讜, he'll give him life, 诪谉 讛讬住讜专讬诐, won't have suffering. 讜讬讗讜砖专 讘讗专抓, he will be 诪讗讜砖专, means confirmed in the land, 砖讬讛讜 讛讻诇 诪转讻讘讚讬谉 讘讜, everyone will give him 讻讘讜讚. 讜讗诇 转转谞讛讜 讘谞驻砖 讗讜讬讘讬讜, he will not give him to the 谞驻砖 of his enemies, 砖讬讝讚诪谞讜 诇讜 专注讬诐 讻谞注诪谉 砖专讬驻讗讜 诪爪专注转讜, you will, the 讗讬讬讘注专砖讟注专 will make you find friends that will give you good advice, just like 谞注诪谉 got good advice from his friends to go to to 讗诇讬砖注, ah, by the 砖驻讞讛, to go to 讗诇讬砖注. So, the 讗讬讬讘注专砖讟注专 will give you, you'll have good friends who'll give you good advice. 讜讗诇 讬讝讚诪谞讜 诇讜 专注讬诐 讻专讞讘注诐 砖讞诇拽讜 诪诇讻讜转讜, and you will not get friends like 专讞讘注诐 that because of his friends' advice to, see, he had like this, he had advice from some people who told him advice, young people told him in order to establish your 诪诇讻讜转, make it hard on the people. The 讝拽谞讬诐 told him 驻讗专拽注专讟, you want to be nice, people should like you, be lenient. He listened to the youngsters, the bad guys. And what happened, the end was that he had to split his 诪诇讻讜转, there was a revolt and they split his 诪诇讻讜转. Do another two lines, then we'll start arranging the 诪谞讬谉. We have 20 people? Did you count? That people left. Count, count before we start. 讗讛? 讗讛, 住'讗讬讝 讚讗住, 住'讗讬讝 谞讬砖讟 讗讝讜讬 驻砖讜讟. Okay, 转谞讬讗, it says 专' 砖诪注讜谉 讘谉 讗诇注讝专, 专' 砖诪注讜谉 讘谉 讗诇注讝专 says 讗诐 讬讗诪专讜 诇讱 讝拽谞讬诐, it's all the 讛诪砖讱 to before. If the old people will tell you 住转讜专, you should break, you should destroy, 讜讬诇讚讬诐, and the youngsters will tell you 讘谞讬, build, 住转讜专 讜讗诇 转讘谞讛, destroy and don't build, 诪驻谞讬 砖住转讬专转 讝拽谞讬诐 讘谞讬谉, the breaking of 讝拽谞讬诐, of old people, is building, 讜讘谞讬谉 讬诇讚讬诐 住转讬专讛, and if the youngsters tell you to build, it's really destroying. 讜专讗讬讛 诇讚讘专, the 专讗讬讛 is 专讞讘注诐 讘谉 砖诇诪讛. Over there, that was the case there. He did what this what the young sprigs told him, and he lost out. Had he done what the old people told him, he would have won. We're doing another line here.
讗诪专 专讘 砖砖转 讘专讬讛 讚专讘 讗讬讚讬, 诇讗 诇讬住专 讗讬谞砖 拽爪讬专讗, you shouldn't visit a sick person, 诇讗 讘转诇转 砖注讬 拽诪讬讬转讗, this is what I was saying before, not the first three hours of the day, 讚讬讜诪讗, of the day, 讜诇讗 讘转诇转 砖注讬 讘转专讬讬转讗, not the last hours of 讚讬讜诪讗, of the day. Why? 讻讬 讛讬讻讬 讚诇讗 诇讬住讞 讚注转讬讛 诪专讞诪讬, shouldn't take his mind away from from asking, for davening. 讘转诇转 砖注讬 拽诪讬讬转讗 专讜讜讞讗 讚注转讬讛. The first three hours he feels good, so if someone comes in and sees him the first three hours, doesn't think to daven for him, \"Oh, 住'讗讬讝 谞讬砖讟 讙注驻注专诇注讱, the guy looks pretty good.\" And 讘转专讬讬转讗 转拽讬祝 讞讜诇讬讛, 驻讗专拽注专讟, when he's at the end, he looks so sick that the people walk in and see, doesn't... Okay, it doesn't look like the guy is, it's too late anyway. So therefore you should not visit him then. Okay, we have to have two 诪谞讬谞讬诐, so please, ten people go into that room, ten people stay here.