Why the Alter Rebbe Polished His Shoes Before a Trip
Why the Alter Rebbe Polished His Shoes Before a Trip
Part of Halacha, Hashkafa and Parenting · 15:26
A grab-bag of customs: the Alter Rebbe's travel practices, restrictions on naming children, avoiding non-Jewish customs like tying shoelaces a certain way, and the origin of the l'chaim toast.
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No, no, so what do you do? So they have all kinds of kushyos, but like the I happened to I know from before, but punkt today I was looking into for something else, I was looking into Tzavaat Rabbi Yehuda Hachassid, and I came across it also. So Margolies has a whole אריכות there, whole pages trying to find answers, and why you do it, and how you do it, and there's different girsaot in Bavli, Yerushalmi, and all kinds of things. But this is clearly there. It's an aberration, you know, like a hen makes sound like a rooster. Why? Yeah, why? Why not? You understand? So the hen that makes sound like a rooster, you got to shacht it. Is it kasher? It's strange, no? That's why you kosher it, or is it uncommon? Everything that just happens strange. It's very strange, okay, but why do you shacht it? What's I don't know, like everything else in Tzavaat Rabbi Yehuda Hachassid. You know everything else in Tzavaat Rabbi Yehuda Hachassid makes nothing makes sense there. Not one word in Tzavaat Rabbi Yehuda Hachassid makes sense. Well, Rabbi Yehuda Hachassid says you can't marry a woman who has the same name as your mother. Yeah, so someone had to give a simple reason. That's that's Yeah, why? Why, I don't know. Oh, so this someone would say because if you call your wife, you'll be mentioning your mother's name. So you should always Not respect it. Yeah, but They once they once asked the Alter Rebbe one of the things in Tzavaat Rabbi Yehuda Hachassid, so many things he writes it's not accepted, people don't do. Certain things, of course, people do. Rosh Chodesh Yeah, that's not Tzavaat Rabbi Yehuda Hachassid, that's Sefer Chassidim from Rabbi Yehuda Hachassid. That's not צוואות. No, Sefer Chassidim is halacha, is things. צוואות is a different thing, he wrote a צוואה. He writes there one of the things which is accepted is that you do not polish your shoes the day you take a trip. Right. That's Tzavaat Rabbi Yehuda Hachassid. So they
asked the Alter Rebbe, what is the reason for it? And the Alter Rebbe said that if all the ימים in the world, all the oceans would be ink, and all the the the the stalks of wheat would be pens, and the whole heaven would be parchment, it wouldn't be enough to write the reason just for that. That definitely reason. Just for that thing, that's how deep it is. Polish your shoes? Tzavaat Rabbi Yehuda Hachassid is is there. So why take it that we follow all of them then? Well, some say that it was written for his children only. צוואה, for the family. His own. Some say it was for all the descendants, some say this is only for his children and grandchildren mamash, but not What other what other interesting things are there? All kinds. What's the main thing that he said If a tree gives fruit twice a year, chop it off. How can you chop off a fruit tree? It give what? Fruit. If it gives fruit twice a year, chop it off. Right, normally once. Normally once, but if it gives twice, chop. I think he says shouldn't say marry two brothers shouldn't marry two sisters, and though that's the one which which yeah, but למאי פועל, לפועל, it's uh if they move if they go to different they move to a different city, we do. The Rebbe's father and the Rebbe's father, and the Rebbe's mother then two brothers married two sisters. You know, it's in New York, it's Tevye too, okay? Look, everybody who leaves the house and they forgot something, you're not supposed to go back to the house, you have to go somewhere else first. That's from Rabbi Yehuda Hachassid. Yeah. It's not preferred Everybody does that. What, keeps it? Turn around People do that. It's only if you go on a trip, not if you just walk out of the house. You go out you walk out of the house to go to the store, you shouldn't go back? You walk out of the house on a trip. There's so But there's so many weird Tzavaat Rabbi Yehuda Hachassid that's רוחניות שברוחניות, that that that's beyond our understanding. Then it
says, one of the things there, shouldn't name your child Yehuda. No? No. Yehuda? You shouldn't name His own name was Yehuda! Tzavaat Rabbi Yehuda Hachassid. Shouldn't name your child Shmuel. He didn't want anybody else to have it. His father's name was Shmuel. It's a question of Why? I'm saying, that's what I'm asking, why? So someone would say that he was speaking to some to his grandson, to his son, saying I don't want you to name me after me, something like that. They have all kinds of perushim. It's not this this. But this is a clear thing against the Gemara, he says that if it makes noise like a like a rooster, shacht it. And here it says if you say that, דרכי האמורי. It's assur. Okay. אשתה ואותיר, אשתה ואותיר, someone says I'm going to drink and leave over because it's good luck, יש בה משום דרכי האמורי, it's דרכי האמורי. The Chachamim does say when you eat you should always leave over something, that's proper דרך ארץ, it's not for good luck or anything. That's so it wouldn't look like you're a Yeah, that you're a fresser, that you eat uh... That's to leave over a drop. But here it says if a guy does it, so this is some kind of voodoo thing. You're not allowed to. המבקעת ביצים בכותל לפני אפרוחים, what they used to do, some people when they had chickens and they wanted to have the the chicken should have good luck and it shouldn't die, should become fat, they would take the eggs after the the eggs comes out, they would take after they cracked the eggs, they would throw it and stick it to the wall. The
whole egg? Not the whole egg, the the קליפה, the the shell. The shell. יש בהם משום דרכי האמורי, it's also דרכי האמורי. המגיז לפני אפרוחים, some people they used to in front of the chickens, in order to give the chicken good luck, they would take a pot and stir the pot in front of the chickens. יש בהם משום דרכי האמורי, it's all דרכי האמורי. המרקדת והמונה שבעים ואחד אפרוחים, they used to in front of the chickens dance and count 71 chickens, ואחד with 71, בשביל שלא ימותו, that should they shouldn't die, יש בה משום דרכי האמורי. Why do we have to learn something we're not supposed to do? We won't uh We wouldn't know about it anyway. Because in those days people used to do it. People used to do it, so tell them don't do it. Okay. המרקדת לכותח, כותח is a certain dip that they used to make. made of חמץ and made of milk, of sour milk, whatever. So, in order to give it a good taste, salty, and it has to do with with taste of, הלכות פסח we learn about others, קותח, and we learn in הלכות בשר בחלב הלכות בשר בחלב, right? הלכות בשר בחלב, but here it's הלכות בשר בחלב, because it's made of milk. But anyway, קודם כל, you have to do everything different than the way גוים goyim do it. So, you
even tie your shoelaces different than the way גוים do it. So, this is even more We don't have to. You've got to It says in Kitzur, it says in Shulchan Aruch, no? If their מנהג is דווקא like that, our מנהג is different, then you're not allowed to do it. No, whatever, we shouldn't copy them. Shouldn't copy them is something else, but this this is a normal thing that people do, there's no problem. So, he's telling you it's not. You would think maybe this is what you could do. All the people, even גוים, wear pants. So, we could also wear pants. We don't have to not wear pants because גוים wear pants. I'm saying there are things that that we would not know. Okay, but wherever it comes from. המרקדת לקותח, they used to for קותח to make it have a good luck. As they would say, they would dance in front of it. והמשתקת לעדשים, when it comes to cook עדשים, lentils, they would say everyone has to be quiet. והמצווחת לגריסין, if you cook beans, they would say everyone has to scream, because that's good luck. יש בהן משום דרכי האמורי, הרי זה דרכי האמורי. But again there are certain things it says. It says in we say every morning in davenen, סמנים, when they used to make the סמנים, הדק היטב, they used to talk. הדק היטב היטב הדק they used to say so many times, but that's not for a לחש, not for that's because it's technically, בגשמיות it helps. Then on the other hand, when they used to pour the wine, says in the Mishnah, they wouldn't talk. And if you wanted to say something, there are סימנים they had, they would bang, and the guy would know, but you couldn't talk. But again, because the the air that comes out would spoil the wine, something It's a gashmiyusdike thing. This is not gashmiyus, this is inyanim. Who's to say that that didn't add something spiritual Everything the Torah says has spiritual. No, but that's not the pshat. This is lechatchilah spiritual in a negative way, in a avodah zarah'dike way. והמשתנת בפני קדרה כדי שתתבשל מהרה. In order for the pot to cook faster she would urinate in front of the pot for some reason. יש בה משום דרכי האמורי, הרי זה דרכי האמורי. But then it says, אבל נותנין קיסם של תות ושברי זכוכית בקדרה, that you are allowed. You're allowed to put a קיסם של תות. A קיסם is a a toothpick, a toothpick like. And תות, תותים are, תותים are berries, a kind of berry. And and broken pieces of glass you're allowed to put in the pot כדי שתתבשל מהרה, to cook faster, because that's a gashmiyus, for sure makes it. וחכמים אוסרין בשברי זכוכית מפני הסכנה, and חכמים say broken glass don't put in, even though you plan to take it out. Obviously you're not going to eat it, but you never know. It might get stuck, so it's mimela dangerous. תנו רבנן, די רבנן האבן געלערנט. Not for it's because דרכי אמורי, because it's dangerous. Yeah, that's what he said. For darkei ha'emori it's mutar, but it's dangerous.
תנו רבנן, די רבנן האבן געלערנט: נותנין בול של מלח, you're allowed to take a handful of salt and put it לתוך הנר into the candle בשביל שתאיר ותדלק, so it should burn better. When you have oil and you burn, I guess it it it makes the the oil better and the fire comes out better. That you're allowed, that's not darkei ha'emori. That's pashut a a gashmiyusdike thing. ונותנין טיט וחרסית תחת הנר, you're allowed to put in the bottom of the candle cement, and טיט is like mud and and a חרסית and earthenware בשביל שתמתין ותדלק, it should that that absorbs that keeps it from burning, so it would burn slower. To burn slower, you save some oil. That you're allowed to do, there's no problem. אמר Mar Zutra, Mar Zutra said: האי מאן דמיכסי שרגא דמשחא, anybody who covers a candle that's of oil and covers it, and the and by covering it it uses up the oil faster. How do you cover a candle without Not cover completely, I guess, put on top. ומגלי נפטא, and when it comes to naphtha, if you open it up it makes it burn faster. So, if you do that in either case, קא עבר משום בל תשחית, הרי זה בל תשחית. Because you're wasting. You could have this same candle, if you don't cover it, it's going to burn for an hour, now it's going to burn for half an hour. But it's flame something could catch onto it or if you have it covered and there's nothing else in the candle. Sure, that was not a cover that to to to protect it. We're talking about covering davka, they wanted to burn better, burn faster. Maybe it's a better fire, but it's but it's בל תשחית, you're wasting. You could have had it for longer. On Chanukah you want the Erev Shabbos, for the Chanukah candle to burn at least a half hour So, you put in more oil. So, you put in more oil. What's the problem? There is extra oil. The she'eilah is with the amount of oil you're putting in. Did they have the EPA to decide how many how many gallons per mile how many miles per gallon the candle is going to get? Could you do it by making the wick thinner? Making it thinner, that's quite as good. Yeah, yeah, so the fire is smaller. זאגט די גמרא: חמרא, when you take wine, וחייא לפום רבנן, and you say chamra, wine, and לחיים, אין בו משום דרכי האמורי. Saying l'chaim on a cup of wine is not דרכי האמורי. Why would I think it is? Could you explain to me, what is the connection with l'chaim and drinking some wine? It's toasts. The goyim used to make toasts. Oh, the goyim make it. Salud. What does it mean if I want to say l'chaim, l'chaim to life, so I drink wine?
What does it have to do? It's like it's like it's like it's like mixing the cups to hear the sound. What are you connecting? We're so we're so used to it, to us, a cup of wine you drink mashkeh to l'chaim, anyway, it's so pashut, it all comes from this Gemara. What is the whole berachah to say l'chaim? L'chaim to life. The goyim have it, but they took it from this. There's two יוד'ן. Two יוד'ן in l'chaim, so you have a יוד and a יוד. Why wine? So, let's say l'chaim on... L'chaim... It's more fun with that. You want to feel it. You really want to feel it. Like a little wine. What do you want to feel? A little...obviously, you feel a little wine. No, it's like the...what did the...the Kotzker chasid said, yeah, Kotzker chasid said why do why you drink l'chaim? Why do chasidim drink mashkeh? Because you want to praise the Eibershter: ברוך אתה ה' אלקינו מלך העולם שהכל נהיה בדברו. You want to praise the Eibershter, at least. So, he asks, \"Then so why do you drink wine? In mashkeh you could drink water.\" \"אה, a ייד, וואס דערהערט שהכל נהיה בדברו, he's worth a bisl mashkeh.\" That's a poilishe chasidish vort, I heard from...I can't get it from the Kotzk. We're rewarding ourselves. Yeah, so the be'emet it's from it's for the שהכל. You deserve a bit...a yid who had said שהכל נהיה בדברו, deserves a bit of mashkeh. But anyway, here it says that חמרא וחיי לפום רבנן. You say חמרא, you say and this is what he used to say the word: The wine and for the life of the chachamim. אין בו משום דרכי האמורי. Not not only this is a halachah, but there's a ma'aseh. It says in the Gemara: maaseh rav. You could posken more from a story, from a maaseh that happened. רבי עקיבא שעשה משתה לבנו, רבי עקיבא
made a party for his son, a ch asunah. על כל כוס, כוס שהביא, every cup he brought, אמר, he said, חמרא וחיי לפום רבנן, wine and l'chaim to life of the חכמים, חיי וחמרא לפום רבנן ולפום תלמידיהון. Unto the חכמים and to all the תלמידים. So, that's where it comes. That you say l'chaim on the cup, it comes from here, the Gemara. That when you say l'chaim it's it's not and it's not דרכי האמורי. If רבי עקיבא did it, we could speak of it. We could do it, yeah, yeah. You have to be at that madreigah. Now, we're allowed to do it. What's the peshat in it? Yeah, I was going to ask, is there a Maharsha on it? Here, Maharsha says: He's drinking a if, pashut peshat, if you drink a little bit, it'll give you life. If you drink too much, it won't be good. So, l'chaim, you drink only to life. זאגט די גמרא ווייטער: אמר רב הונא, רב הונא said: Drink only a little bit, that's what it means to to to say l'chaim, not to drink too much. Everything is לפי הערך. You know, for me it is a little different from yours. All right. Everyone according to how much you can drink. Some people, other things are לפי הערך of a person. Some people drink wine and they fall down. Some people drink too a little bit and it's too much, yeah. Like the vort of the Rabbi Maharash, no? Three things must have hashpaah in a person. Three things must have hashpaah. Said if you have money, you become rich, you must go crazy. All right, yeah. Said if you learn Chassidus, you must become more yerei shamayim. If you drink mashkeh, you must become drunk. Said, how come we see that a person drinks mashkeh somewhere and didn't get drunk? He didn't have enough. How you see a guy learned Chassidus didn't become more yerei shamayim? He didn't learn enough. How we see a guy get a lot of money and didn't become shouldn't crazy? He doesn't have enough. Everything is לפי הערך.
אמר רב הונא, רב הונא said: היה מהלך במדבר ואינו יודע אימתי שבת, a person is in the מדבר, in the desert, and he lost track of the days and he forgot he doesn't know when שבת is. So, there's a machloket what you do. One opinion is Anything. What do you mean, you can't just count anything. מונה ששה ימים, he counts six days, ומשמר יום אחד, and the seventh day is שבת, from the time he remembered. Who said that to who said that to tell, I don't know. Ruzhiner, Ruzhiner. Right, the Ruzhiner. When he was a kid. Yeah. The melamed of the Ruzhiner learned with the Ruzhiner when he was a kid this Gemara and he says, \"I don't understand the Gemara.\" He says, \"What's wrong? It's a very simple Gemara.\" So, he told it to him again. \"I don't understand the Gemara.\" Finally, he says, \"What don't you understand?\" He says, \"How could a Yid not know when it's Shabbos? You just look at the sky and you see it's a different sky on Shabbos. You could tell right away when it's Shabbos. So, what do you mean he doesn't know when it's Shabbos?\" But I guess we don't know when it's Shabbos. We don't see the sky. So, takeh with the same Ruzhiner, the eidem of came was once visiting the Alter, the Tzemach Tzedek, I'm saying, whatever. So, he was there, and it was a Friday by him, and he lit the לולקע, he used to have the לולקע, the the the pipe and he used to he used to smoke it. Hookah. Yeah, a lot of the tzadikim used to smoke the לולקע. So, yes, like מעשה קטורת, whatever, I don't know. So, and then he says, it came it came to a moment when it was getting close to Shabbos, so he put away the לולקע. And the Ruzhiner's איידעם said, \"I saw on his face that just, it's no one even told him, just the time came. He was נתעלה, he went all the way to שמים, און איך בין געבליבן דא, and I kept I stayed down here, and he changed completely, I mean, you can\" Guess what was in the hookah. יהא מחול לך, ברוך השם. ברכת המילה. Okay, so he said you count six days and the seventh day is you keep. But even the days that you count, you can't do any melachah. You starve to death. No, you could only do כדי חייו. You could only do enough that you need to live, and to be able to get out, because otherwise