doubt it. Why? I doubt it will be. Tomorrow? Tomorrow Naftali's daughter son is getting married, Zalman Teitelbaum. Everyone is going to be there, so I doubt it. Where is the chatunah? In the Pearl River Jungle. Sounds good. Huh? Sounds good. Okay, זאגט די גמרא אזוי. Here we're learning still about marrying a daughter, says if a בת תלמיד חכם marries עם הארץ, a daughter of an תלמיד חכם marries an עם הארץ, or a daughter of a כהן marries an ישראל, it's a big problem. That's what we said. Okay, so here we're holding like this. Marries an ישראל. It's a problem. That's the Gemara for so far. It's pashut. But we can't stop in the middle, we can just זאגט די גמרא, רבי יהושע נסיב כהנתא.

Rabbi Yehoshua married a בת כהן, חלש, got sick. אמר לה, he said, לא ניחא ליה לאהרן לאדבוקי בזרעיה, doesn't, Aharon doesn't like when I get connected to his children, דהוה ליה חתנא כוותי? As he'll have she'll have an in like me, he doesn't like me as being as a son-in-law. When he said that, אינפשי, when he said that, so he got cured. רב אידי בר אבין נסיב כהנתא, רב אידי בר אבין married a בת כהן, והוו ליה תרי בני דנסבי סמיכה. So he had two children who got semichah. So the Gemara, סמיכה סלקא דעתך? How could you say they got semichah? In the time of Rav Idi bar Avin there was no more semichah. I mean, we have semichah nowadays and semichah program, but the real semichah, which is איש מפי איש, that stopped already in the time of the Gemara already, stopped before. So this time, in the time of Rav Idi bar Avin there was no semichah, so what do you mean he had two children with semichah? אלא אימא חזו לסמיכה. Two two children which were deserving, I mean, had the semichah been, they would have been candidates for semichah. ומאן נינהו? Who were these two sons? Rav Sheshet brei de-Rav Idi and Rav Yehoshua brei de-Rav Idi, these two sons.

אמר רב פפא, רב פפא said, אי לאו דנסיבי כהנתא לא עתרי. If I wouldn't marry a בת כהן, I wouldn't become rich. Farkert, the zechut of marrying a בת כהן made me rich. אמר רב כהנא, רב כהנא said, אי לאו דנסיבי כהנתא, if I wouldn't marry a בת כהן, לא גלאי, I wouldn't have to go to galut. What happened was he had to run away from Bavel to Eretz Yisrael because of the government or something, and they were looking for him. He was in a car? No. And he said the reason was because I married a בת כהן, so it's a it's a problem, it causes a problem. אמרו ליה, they said to him, what's your problem? והא למקום תורה גלית? You went to Eretz Yisrael, so you're fine, you went to מקום תורה. So he said, what I mean is לא גלאי כדגלו אינשי. I went to galut there not like people go. I would like to go there because I want to learn, so I would go to yeshivah, but I had to run away. That's the problem, and that's all because I married a בת כהן. Once he was there, huh, yeah, he learned, and it's fine. What does the what does the בת כהן have to do with his with the government wanting to chase him? No, it says it's like a קללה, if you marry a בת כהן, it's no good. But before we learned didn't didn't we learn that last time we learned two things, no. It said before that you should not have if it's a seudah that's not a סעודת מצוה, תלמיד חכם shouldn't partake. What's not a סעודת מצוה? So he said, בת כהן לישראל, or בת תלמיד חכם לעם הארץ, such a chatunah is אין זיווגן עולה יפה, doesn't work. And the Gemara even said what? Or she will become an almanah, or she will become a gerushah, won't have any children. What if it said about about בת כהן לעם הארץ? No, no. Said two things. Then the Gemara later on brought one case, and the Gemara was מחלק. In a beraita it said that it's no good, and Rabbi Yochanan said farkert, הרוצה, the one who wants to become rich, marry a בת כהן. So he said, it depends, a talmid chacham marries a בת כהן is good, an am haaretz not. But that's but that's the answer that's pashut. But בכלל, when the Gemara said before, there is a sevara or a שיטה that any בת כהן that marries a regular ישראל is a problem. So if you become a talmid chacham, then it's So I said last time that Masechet Kallah is one of the difficult things that the Gemara says, and that's why you should learn Masechet Kallah. But here he said that one of them said it was a ma'alah and one said it was a chesaron. אמר רבי יצחק, רבי יצחק

said, כל הנהנה מסעודת הרשות, anybody who has hana'ah from a seudah that's not a seudat mitzvah, which means but what does it mean hana'ah? Hana'ah means hana'ah, you can eat, I mean if you shouldn't eat a seudah there's some guys, haha, or everybody have to eat. Hana'ah means hana'ah, that if you're really looking there l'ta'avah, like Rashi says it. Right. So לסוף גולה, in the end we'll go to galut. שנאמר, it says, והאכלים כרים מצאן ועגלים מתוך מרבק, that they're eating meat, and they're eating, and they're eating like וכתיב בתריה, what does it say later? לכן עתה יגלו בראש גלים, they're going to go to galut. So that means that they're doing it in a way that You know, Rashi says it later on, it's ligt in ta'avos. תנו רבנן, די רבנן האבן געלערנט, כל תלמיד חכם המרבה סעודתו בכל מקום, any talmid chacham that wherever he goes eats a lot, er liegt in essen. That means he could be a talmid chacham, aber er liegt in essen, or as we would say it in the frawste shprakh, er liegt in fresn. I mean, it's l'sof the end is like this: מחריב ביתו, he'll destroy his house. Pashut never never will be home. He'll always go around trying to find more food and ומאלמן את אשתו, his wife becomes an almanah, not a real almanah, because he's looking to fulfill his ta'avot, and he doesn't have so he'll go other places to find. In the meanwhile, his wife is left alone. ומייתם את גוזליו, and his birds, that means his children, he leaves them like a yatom, because he he's not home ever for them. ותלמודו משתכח הימנו, he'll forget the Torah. Why? Because he's he's busy he's looking around for food, he doesn't have time to chazar his learning. ומחלוקות רבות באות עליו, he'll get a lot of machlokot. Rashi says, number one, because he forgot his learning, so he'll say things and people will argue with him because he's wrong, or he's going to borrow money to buy food and he's not going to have what to pay, so people are going to argue with him. ודבריו אינם נשמעים, from now on, no one listens to him. ומחלל שם שמים. Wow, these are Unbelievable. Unbelievable. And he's מחלל את שם השם. Ah? And it says, but like, come on. Chabad, we don't like this, everyone is a talmid chacham. He's a talmid chacham? He's a talmid chacham. It's because we all fress, but people don't fress. What? People don't fress. Oh, I'm sorry, I mean I thought you asked me what what is considered fress? Remember the last time we took a chap? I mean, take pictures tomorrow, you see how people fress. Yeah. Not you. Yes. Oh, this Shavuos nobody fress. But you did? What did you say? What's the concept of Like a kiddush. What? A kiddush, you get on the seudah of Shabbos. A kiddush. A geshmaka seudah, a seudah of Shabbos. What is the difference between essen and fressen? Yeah. Okay, that's so I'm saying. If you gegessen, so no problem. It's מחלל שם שמים ושם אביו ושם רבו. You're mechalel the name of your father and the name of your Rebbe. And it's worse than davening. Ah? And they're giving talking by davening. So see what it says by talking by davening. This is half of what it says by talking by davening. Is this the freeze, by the way? Yes. Okay, but that, you ate them in a klal. But I'm saying you could The truth is The truth is you could eat The she'eilah is, because eat and you could eat a lot of food, but that doesn't mean you have hana'ah, it's not a ta'avah. The Rebbe, the Rebbe was so rich and he had so much food, it says when he used he and Antoninus had the best food on the table throughout the whole year, and he once and before he died, he raised his hand and he says, I never had הנאה כאצבע קטנה from the olam hazeh. What do you mean he didn't have hana'ah? He had a billionaire and he had the best food. You could eat the best food and not be a baal ta'avah. That's, you got it, it's nisht pashut. It's a simple thing. So all the things you saw this, eat l'shem Shamayim. And there were tzadikim their avodah was eating. There were tzadikim that didn't eat a lot. There were צדיקים Elazar ben R' Shimon. Yeah. They were fat, but there were tzadikim I mean, there was a story this is agav. Elazar ben R' Shimon ate because they could take the yisurim for the people. Yeah, yeah, yeah, they did it all for good reasons. The Shinaver once came to a city and they served him cholent, and he's the first one to eat and no one would eat before he starts. Before he would eat. So he started eating and finished finished fast and then he said, I want more. They brought him more cholent and he ate it up, and he wanted more cholent, and he thought he ate up the whole pot, and no one else was able to eat. So later they wondered, to see they knew his avodah wasn't eating, his avodah there wasn't that, an other type, it's it's עבודת הבירורים, okay, it was So he didn't want to say, he said, this time and later they found out what happened. Who cooked the food? The maid, a אידישע פרוי, a אידישע פרוי, a maid. She made a mistake. And she made a mistake and instead of putting in oil, she put in kerosene. And when he ate it, he tasted it, and he knew what's going to happen. When people will taste it, it's hopeless her חלד, she's going to have such bizyonot and such things. So he ate up the whole thing, no one should be able to taste it and no one would. That's called eating l'shem shamayim. What a story with the Baal Shem Tov with the guy, once It's called suicide. I don't know, suicide, you see, he didn't He served the Baal Shem Tov and the Baal Shem Tov said Somebody asked the Baal Shem Tov, \"How could I learn how to eat l'shem shamayim?\" So he a lot of times the Baal Shem Tov would send to go to this place to see, go him. So he said, \"Go to the city, see this פשוט'ע איד, and you'll see how he eats l'shem shamayim.\" So he expected he's going to come to a house, it's going to be a seudah, a בעל ירידה, so he walks in, he sees a house didn't look like a house from a big tzadik, from There was no sefarim and nothing, so he asked the wife, \"Where's the husband?\" Out. Okay, he'll wait. waited. He thought the guy will come in. Guy comes in, a גרויסער, whatever, a גראבער אזא, ah. He

walks in, surprised, ער עסט לשם שמים! And he comes over, turns out to his wife, he says, whatever her name is, \"גיב מיר האער צו עסן.\" He took like that. That's how he speak? A אידל wie dies... She brought him a plate full like this. And he, ah, this is ער עסט לשם שמים? So, later on he said to him, \"What do you have in mind when you're eating?\" Says, \"I'll tell you what I have in mind. Once I was going in the forest, and I heard noises. Like howling noise. And I saw there were a whole bunch of שקצים that started up, and wanted to kill a איד. האב איך זיך אנגענומען מיט מיינע כחות, and I beat them up, and I saved the איד's life. And from when then on, whenever I eat, I eat so much in case ever a goy starts up with a איד, I should be able to beat them up, I should have koach. That's what I have in mind.\" That's called ער עסט לשם שמים. Okay. So, al kol panim, this guy who fresses here is מחלל שם שמים, the name of his father, the name of his Rebbe, and we give him שם רע לו, causes a bad name for himself, ולבניו, for his children, ולבני בניו, for his grandchildren, עד סוף כל הדורות, until the end of all generations. מאי היא? What kind of bad name? Because this guy, since he's into food, so he doesn't have money usually. The first money that he have, so he goes and gets from others. תא שמע, Abaye, what do you mean that he causes a bad name for him and for his children? Because קרו ליה, they call their children בר מלחם תנור. He he goes out goes and becomes uh a a guy who cleans the street, cleans the ovens. So, they'll call the children the son of the one that cleans ovens, a oven cleaner. Rava bar Rav Shila says בר מרקד בי כובי. A son of a guy who goes dancing amongst among the bars. Because he doesn't have food. And Pappa bar Abba would call him בר, בר מלחך פינכי, a guy who licks the pe- plates. And uh And uh Rav Shmaya says, בר מוכרבא. מוחראבא, it says a person who folds when he has to go to sleep, doesn't even have a place to sleep, so he takes his clothes and doesn't have a pillow, and puts it under him. The other way, he's going to become poor and poor. If he comes bizyonot, he's going to become a משא, לטאטא, sweep floors. So, he makes the bizyonot for his family.

תנו רבנן, the רבנן have learned, לעולם ימכור אדם כל מה שיש לו, a person should sell whatever he has, וישא בת תלמיד חכם. To marry a daughter of a תלמיד חכם, not a daughter of an עם הארץ, why? שאם ימות או יגלה, if he'll die or go to גלות, מובטח לו, he'll be guaranteed, שבניו תלמידי חכמים. Because if the wife is a בת תלמיד חכם, she knows, she's a תלמיד חכם. Here in the Gemara, a lot of times, it doesn't mean davka a big lamdan. The עמי הארצים then were not יראי שמים פשוט. They were פרוסטע אידן not יראי שמים, and the תלמידי חכמים were were יראי שמים, so It's just a chaver. Well, it says every תלמיד חכם is בחזקת חבר. Chaver is the title of of aidles. A תלמיד חכם is בחזקת חבר. So, a person who learns, but the ikar is not the learning part, you could learn and you could be a גראבער יונג. So, his if she she's brought up in a house of a תלמיד חכם, she's going to raise her children that way. ולא ישא בת עם הארץ, don't marry a daughter of an עם הארץ, שאם ימות או יגלה, בניו עמי הארצים, עמי הארץ. If he's going to die or go to גלות, his children will be like that. Cuz who's going to take care of the children? Your wife, and the wife is doesn't know any better cuz she's the daughter of an עם הארץ. תנו רבנן, the רבנן have learned, לעולם ימכור אדם כל מה שיש לו וישא בת תלמיד חכם. A person should sell whatever is whatever it cost him to marry a daughter of a תלמיד חכם. וישיא בתו לתלמיד חכם, and you should marry off your daughter to a talmid chacham. מושל, this is the לשון it comes from, then if that happens, it's a mashal of ענבי הגפן בענבי הגפן. That the grapes the the the vine of grapes, and the grapes, דבר נאה ומתקבל, that's something that's beautiful and מתקבל. ולא לעם הארץ, don't marry your daughter to an עם הארץ, מושל, it'd be a mashal, if you're a talmid chacham, it's ענבי הגפן בענבי הסנה. It's the grapes with the סנה, סנה has thorns. That's not a דבר נאה ומתקבל. דבר מכוער ואינו מתקבל, it's a a shlechte zach, a me'use zach, and and not מתקבל. תנו רבנן, ah? What's more important, to marry your daughter to a to a בת תלמיד חכם or to marry to a a בת תלמיד חכם? A בת תלמיד חכם is always more. Always a בת? Because yeah, for this reason. תנו רבנן לעולם ימכור אדם כל מה שיש לו וישא בת תלמיד חכם. You should always try to sell everything you have, any money it cost, marry a daughter of a talmid chacham. לא מצא בת תלמיד חכם, There isn't available a daughter of a תלמיד חכם, ישא בת גדולי הדור. So, marry your children a daughter of אנשי מעשה, people who who are frume yidden, feine yidden, the are not in that level. לא מצא בת גדול הדור, if he didn't find a גדול הדור, ישא בת ראשי כנסיות. See it's a lower level then and they deliver it also like certain leaders of the community. לא מצא בת ראשי כנסיות, ישא בת גבאי צדקה. At least a daughter of a גבאי צדקה, these are all people with fine positions who have a certain eidelkeit, a certain connection to ruchniyut. לא מצא בת גבאי צדקה, you don't find a daughter of a גבאי צדקה, ישא בת מלמדי תינוקות. Of a teacher, teacher to teach children. ולא ישא בת עמי הארץ, don't marry a daughter of an am ha'aretz. מפני שהם שקץ. אפשר הבנתם, because they are שקץ. שקץ means they are disgusting. ונשיהם שרץ. עמי הארצים הם שקץ and their and the ווייבער are שרץ, ועל בנותיהם הוא אומר ארור שוכב עם כל בהמה. And to live with the daughter with the with the daughter of an am ha'aretz, it says ארור, cursed is the one that lives with a בהמה. תניא, it says in the ברייתא, רבי אומר, רבי says, עם הארץ אסור לאכול בשר. Am ha'aretz is not allowed to eat meat. שנאמר, it says, זאת תורת הבהמה והעוף. This is the Torah of the בהמה and the bird. כל העוסק בתורה מותר לאכול בשר בהמה ועוף. If you have a Torah, then you can have the בהמה, and then you can eat meat. וכל שאינו עוסק בתורה אסור. If you don't learn Torah, it's assur. In חסידות טייטש, the word assur means not forbidden, assur means tied. When something is tied, it's the word assur. מתיר אסורים. So, a am ha'aretz is tied to eat בשר. He's schlepped, he has a ta'avah to eat בשר. And because of that, he has he's assur to eat בשר. ארור שוכב עם כל בהמה, they're they're the בהמה or they're they're the ones that are being warned about that עבירה? No no no no no, she's like a בהמה. Yeah, that's what it means here, yeah. She's like a בהמה. And whoever lives with a daughter of an am ha'aretz, so he's living with a בהמה. I think Rav Kamenetsky, Rav Reuven Kamenetsky z"l, he said that all the girls who learn in he opened a seminary, they're all considered daughters of a daughter of a talmid chacham. Even if their father is not. Because they have the qualities... See, here the vort is not because the father is a talmid chacham. The שאלה is that it means that they're raised in such a way. So, if they're raised, that's true, if they're raised. All the all the girls who went to Beis Yaakov... Okay, all those who go to a Jewish school. Those days, the girls didn't go to any school. All they had was what they got at home. And if the home was a a grabe home, they were grab, there's no way, no other way. But now when you have girls' schools and they're raised in the girls' schools, it's it's fine. When you say about the בהמה, it reminds me of a joke. It's an old joke. When there was once some am ha'aretz who didn't have any money, finally he made he made a lot of money, became the president of the shul. So, for the first Shabbos he became president, he had this, so they put him up on top of the בימה, you know, sitting there next to the Rav, next to the Rav. And he's sitting next to the Rav Friday night. He wants to start a conversation, but what kind of conversation can he start with the Rav? Good, so he didn't say anything. Comes Shacharit, again he's standing there, he couldn't say. Comes Mincha. Musaf, Mincha, and they said צדקתך, אדם ובהמה תושיע ה׳. He thought of a kashya. He turned around, Rabbi, he says, Rav, what's the בהמה next doing next to the אדם? So the Rav says, \"A whole Shabbos I was wondering!\" Same thing here, ארור... כל בהמה. אמר רבי אלעזר, Rabbi Elazar said, עם הארץ מותר לנוחרו ביום הכיפורים שחל להיות בשבת. You're allowed to kill, stab an עם הארץ on Yom Kippur that falls out on Shabbos. אמרו לו תלמידיו, his תלמידים said, רבי, אמור לשוחטו, why'd you say לנוחרו? נוחר you're killing him. Say you can שחט him. אמר להם, he said, זה טעון ברכה, that it requires a bracha to שחט, at least you're making a bracha! If you kill an animal, you don't make a bracha. Heh! So, you can kill him. ואמר רבי אלעזר, Rabbi Elazar said, עם הארץ אסור להתלוות עמו בדרך, you can't go with him on the trip, just you alone with him. שנאמר, it says, כי הוא חייך ואורך ימיך, Torah is your life and the long days. And if he doesn't learn Torah, הוא על חייו אינו חס, he doesn't care about his life, על חיי חבירו לא כל שכן, he wouldn't care about your life. So, it's dangerous to go with him, so he can kill you.

אמר רב שמואל בר נחמני אמר רבי יוחנן, עם הארץ מותר לקורעו כדג. You're allowed to tear him like a fish. אמר רב שמואל בר יצחק, ומגבו, and from his back, cuz then you really kill him. It just needs to understand, it's it's just a mashal what it means, that the עמי הארצים at that time, the separation between the the the חברים the the תלמידי חכמים and the עמי הארצים was so great. And as we'll see soon, we'll get to it, they hated the תלמידי חכמים שנאת מות. It says in the Gemara they hated them more than the goyim hate than they hated the goyim. They hated, ah, more than the goyim hate Yidden. The difference, I mean you don't find that now. Because they were really fargrabt, and also the difference was so strong, a talmid chacham couldn't walk in the street next to an am ha'aretz on the same block, because they were all considered tamei, and if he speaks to him, you become tamei all of a sudden, because if spitting, a drop of spit comes on you, makes you tamei. So the so the division was so strong and they looked upon them as lowest class citizens, so farshteit zich what they felt like. So they hated the talmidei chachamim. Does Tosafos talk about all these? Everybody was... I didn't look, see. Yeah, he said you could embarrass him. He

says when it says kill him, it means this. Killing is you embarrass him. somebody, he says, like you're killing him. You're שופך דמים. So it means you're allowed to embarrass him. But difference that this is not literally, yeah? מלבין פני חבירו, yeah? It's אזיל חיוורא ואזיל סומקא, it goes become red, white. They were not learned either? Huh? The amei ha'aretz? No, most not. They didn't. They were not learned, so they weren't frum? No, some of them were, but all, they weren't so frum. Adraba, there's certain things they kept. It says whatever they kept, they kept. Terumah. Terumah they kept, but maaser, maaser not. What's demay? Demay is maaser, not from terumah. תניא, we learned in the ברייתא, אמר רבי עקיבא, רבי עקיבא said: כשהייתי עם הארץ, when I was an עם הארץ, אמרתי, I said: מי יתן לי תלמיד חכם ואנשכנו כחמור, who could give me a תלמיד חכם, I'll bite him like a donkey bites. אמרו לו תלמידיו, his students said: רבי, אמור ככלב, why it's like a donkey, why not like a dog? אמר להם, no, זה נושך ושובר עצם, donkeys break the bones when they bite, וזה נושך ואינו שובר עצם, he bites, but he doesn't break bones. And I hated the תלמידי חכמים so much. So a donkey's bite you don't get cured from? Well, that's a special one, a פרידה, a פרידה. תניא, we learned in the ברייתא,

היה רבי מאיר אומר, רבי מאיר said: כל המשיא בתו לעם הארץ, anybody who marries off his daughter to an עם הארץ, it's like כאילו כופתה, it's as if he's tying her up, ומניחה לפני ארי, putting down in front of a lion. Why? מה ארי דורס ואוכל, just like a lion דורס, he attacks, tramples and eats, and doesn't even wait for, while it's still alive he eats it, yeah? ואין לו בושת פנים, he's not embarrassed. Why? He's not embarrassed? Who is he afraid of? He's the strongest of all the of all the animals. אף עם הארץ מכה ובועל, he hits her and is בועל, ואין לו בושת פנים, he's not embarrassed of anything. So this is the worst thing. תניא, we learned, רבי אלעזר אמר, רבי אלעזר said: אלמלא צריכין לנו למשא ומתן, if they wouldn't need our business, כבר היו הורגין אותנו, they would have killed us. The עם הארץ needs, yeah, the עם הארץ need business. What do they need? Business? What does it mean? Eating. But תלמיד חכם also have to eat, buy fruit, they do, so they, but if not for that, they would have killed us. פסחים דף מט. Yeah. It's just like aggadata here. What's the secret?