דערנאך וועט מען, דער רבי געבן כוס של ברכה, און מען זאל זיך נישט שטופן, אזוי האט געהייסן דער נאי הוועד המסדר. The רבי, after he finished, the רבי started repeating, דער סדר וועט זיין אזוי, he copied his lashon. פריער וועט דער אויבערשטער געבן א גוט יאר... א גע... פריער וועט מען געבן... נא, פריער וועט דער אויבערשטער געבן א גוט יאר, נאך כתיבה וחתימה טובה, דערנאך וועט מען לערנען תורה און טאן מצוות. אזוי האט געהייסן נאי ועד המסדר, עטס הערט? He finished his lashon. Vaad Hamesader was the one to take care of Well, of the seder in the, by the פארברענגענס. Okay. איך דענק אז ר' יוחנן פלעגט זאגן, איצטער וועט זיין דער סדר אזוי, right? He used that word. Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. I still hear it today. Yeah, you told me. You told me, yeah. I still I still hear it today. Yeah.

Rabbi' Yochanan Gordon who we saw the Sure. had a problem, Sure. Yeshua. What's that there Yeshua. on the video? Yeshua. No, Rabbi' Yochanan Gordon. Yeshua. Rabbi' Yochanan Gordon was It's like זיידע זיינע. Remember we saw Yeshua Binyamin Gordon? His son, right? He's a grandson. Rabbi' Yochanan Gordon was his grandfather. And his son was, you get Nisan Gordon, the writer. Nisan, זיין טאטע is Shalom Ber Gordon. Nisan Gordon is נישט He's a brother and זיין, דער Yeshua Binyamin, Yeshua is a זון פון שלום בער גארדאן. Right. שלום בער גארדאן'ס ברודער, another son of Yochanan's is Nisan. Huh? Yeah. No, that Gordon is not, no. The Gordon written on top there, the Josh Gordon? Yeah. No, that's it's a different family. Okay, we're holding here that Gemara, after the Gemara. Yeah, after the people who want to change jobs. הספנים, these are the sailors, אחת לששה חדשים. Since they travel very far, so they're not home, so they have a right to have relations once in six months. דברי רבי אליעזר, that's what Rabbi Eliezer holds. His wife, that means intimacy. This we're talking about the obligation that you have, one of the three things, שארה כסותה ועונתה. So depending on your job, that's how much you have. So the person who has a job that's very far, so she can't expect to have it more than once six months. אמר רב אדא בר אהבה אמר רב, רב אדא בר אהבה said in the name of רב, זו דברי רבי אליעזר, this is רבי אליעזר's opinion, אבל חכמים אומרים, the חכמים say, התלמידים יוצאין למלחמת תורה שנים ושלש שנים שלא ברשות. See, before we learned ספנים to do with sea? ספן is a is someone ספינה. He said sailors. ספינה. I said sailors. I translated it sailors. This that we said that תלמידים only could go out for a month without reshut and then if they if they do get the reshut it's also one month here, one month there, this is רבי אליעזר's opinion, but חכמים hold תלמידים, to learn תורה, could go for two, three years without permission of their wives. אמר רבא, רבא said, סמכו רבנן על דרב אדא בר אהבה, the רבנן, certain חכמים relied on the opinion of רב אדא בר אהבה ועבדו עובדא בנפשייהו, and that's how they behaved, they takeh left to yeshivah without reshut from the wife for two, three years. כי הא דרב רחומי, like a story, רב רחומי הוה שכיח קמיה דרבא במחוזא. He was he was by רבא in מחוזא. הוה רגיל דהוה אתי לביתו כל מעלי יומא דכפורי. He

would come home only once a year, Erev Yom Kippur. יומא חד, one day, once, Well, when did he leave? Huh? When did he leave? And afterwards he would leave back. Yom Kippur, so yeah, ostensibly it was even nothing. No, maybe מוצאי יום כיפור. Once, משכתיה שמעתא, ערב יום כיפור he was learning and he got involved in his learning. הוה מסכיא דביתהו, his wife was waiting, saying השתא אתי, השתא אתי, she knew that he always comes here, soon he's coming, soon he's coming. לא אתי, but he didn't come. חלש דעתה, so she felt very bad. אחית דמעתא מעינה, she dropped a tear from the eye, she was crying. הוה יתיב באיגרא, and he was sitting on the roof, Her husband? Yeah. On the roof? On the roof, oh. אפחית איגרא מתותיה, the roof collapsed under him, ונח נפשיה, and he died. Because she was מקפיד, and he caused her to cry, Right. there was a קפידא, and this is what happened to him. Don't make your wife cry. Don't make your wife cry? It says clearly, don't do that. Doing, taking making your wife cry and you get so punished, and it's such a bad thing, at the same time, you can stay away for two years? It doesn't like I mean they don't They don't jibe, if you will. But she she should know that. She will know it. But when you're telling her, you're making her think that you're coming, She expects you. He had a he had a rabbi saying it was okay, so therefore she knew the halachah when he went away that he she didn't have to give permission, so therefore she had no reason to cry. Right, therefore she had no reason to cry, but she expected him... Exactly! Exactly! Exactly! Didn't hear. No, but it's exactly what you said before. עונה של תלמיד חכמים אימת? The Gemara, when is the onah of תלמידי חכמים, which time?

אמר רב יהודה אמר שמואל: מערב שבת לערב שבת. Friday night, every Friday night. That's if you're a מקובל. Ah? מקובל. That's us. But this, are these all מקובלים? I guess so. This is the the מקור for Friday night? Yeah. And the Gemara quotes a pasuk. Yeah, it is. אשר פריו יתן בעתו, it says you should give your fruit in its proper time. What does that mean? אמר רב יהודה, ואיתימא, some say רב הונא, ואיתימא, some say רב נחמן, זה, that refers to המשמש מיטתו מערב שבת לערב שבת. The right time is is Friday night, and that's when she would conceive. So that's putting in, giving your fruit at the right time. Why say מערב שבת לערב שבת? From Friday to Friday, from Friday, that's what he's saying. It's not Erev Shabbat, it's Shabbat. Friday night. Erev Shabbat is night. That's not Erev Shabbat. The night of Erev Shabbat, after Erev Shabbat. זאגט די Gemara ווייטער: יהודה בריה דרבי חייא, יהודה the son of רבי חייא, חתניה דרבי ינאי הוה. He was the son-in-law of רבי ינאי. אזל ויתיב בבי רב. He

went to the yeshivah. וכל בי שמשי הוה אתי לביתיה. Every Friday, Friday for Shabbat, he would come home. כי הוה אתי, when he would come, הוה חזי קמיה עמודא דנורא. There was רבי ינאי, his father-in-law, would see a pillar of fire coming in front of him. That's how holy he was. יומא חד, what happened, one Friday, משכתו שמעתא, got involved in learning. כיון דלא חזי, so רבי ינאי did not see the pillar of fire, so he understood he's not coming. And he wondered, why is he not coming? הוה סימנא to him דלא חזא ההוא סימנא, he didn't see this סימן. אמר להו רבי ינאי, so רבי ינאי said: You know what I think happened? He must have died, otherwise he would come. כפו מטתו! An אבל, nowadays we don't do it, but an אבל had to turn over his bed. So he said, he meant to tell them, you've become אבלים now, your your husband must have died, so turn your beds over. כשלמודה הוא דקיים, had he been alive, לא הוה מבטל עונתיה. He wouldn't have been מבטל his time. He would have certainly come home. But it's not true, he just got stuck learning. Right. הוה כשגגה שיוצא מלפני השליט. It turned out like a mistake it says if a ruler, if a king makes a mistake and says this guy has to die even though it was a mistake, you got to do it. ונח נפשיה, and he died. When Rabbi Yanai said He didn't die, but because he said He said, now he died. Shouldn't he be more careful? Shouldn't he be more careful? He knows the power of his words. They say not only that, they say that if a Beit Din gives a heter to an עגונה על פי הלכה, didn't come, and they פסקן על פי דין that we could assume that he died, so they say even if he didn't die, he will die. Wow. Because if the Beit Din פסקנס, he will die. This is also a lesson, I mean there's clearly there's a secondary lesson to be learned here. Don't do something that will cause Yeah, that's it, that's the first lesson! Not a second, that's the first lesson here! That he shouldn't have done it, he should have come just like before! Yeah, he shouldn't have done it. Right, his neighbor. Before, he died! prophesying his own What? Which way? Yeah. Yeah. No, sometimes it happens. It does happen sometimes. צדיק גוזר הקדוש ברוך הוא מקים, a tzadik says. So, like you always say, that's that's the way it is, whether or not So, does it change nature in some fashion? It's done, right? Yeah. זאגט די Gemara ווייטער:

רבי איעסק ליה לבריה בי רבי חייא. Rabbi married off his son to Rabbi Chiya's daughter. כי מטא למכתב כתובה, when it came to write the כתובה, נח נפשה דאיסתא, so the kallah died. He was a chatan, getting going to get married to the daughter of Rabbi Chiya, she died. אמר רבי, so Rabbi said: חס ושלום, פסולא איכא. There's some pasul here, there's something in the families that don't match, someplace there's a pasul, that's why the Eibershter didn't want. That's why she died? Yeah. In order not to marry No, no. יתיבו, they sat down, ועיינו במשפחות. So they figured they went down to the yichus to see. רבי אתי, רבי came they figured out from Shefatyah ben Avital. Shefatyah ben Avital was the son of David, from David's wife called Avital. רבי חייא אתי משמעי אחי דוד. Rabbi Chiya comes from Shimi, the brother of David. Yeah. So, it comes out that who was a bigger yichus? Cousins. Rabbi. Rabbi came from David's family, from one of the children of David. And and Rabbi Chiya didn't come from David's family, he came from David's brother's family, so he's a less lesser yichus. אזיל. So good, so the Wait, his brother's Why his brother? Why what? Who is Avital? No, Avital was David's was David's daughter-in-law. Shefatya was David's son, and he was, and and and and Avital was David's wife, I mean. One of the wives of David. One of them was Chagit was the mother of Adoniyahu, Bat Sheva, the mother of Shlomo, Avital was the mother of Shefatya. Okay. Oh, I see. So, so he was a bigger yichsan and the Eibershter didn't want that they should marry, he should have married off. This is a very That's a pasul? That's But he used the לשון פסולא. Everything is לפי ערך. לפי ערך, the big yichus of from David HaMelech's house, it's called a פסולא. So the yichus whatever they call it has to match? Even for their own children? They are these people are judged in a different way than we are judged. On a different level. Different cheshbonot these people, how they should what they should do. Like more is demanded of the tzadikim than the than the than the simpler. Even even with who they marry? Yeah, even with who they marry, yeah. אזיל, he went, עסק ליה. took her away to the בית דין של מעלה. Obviously this shiduch wasn't made, and that's why she died, shouldn't do it. Yeah, that's why she died.