Rebbe Rashab married his cousin. Right, right. His father and her father were brothers. Right. Yeah, Rebbe Maharash, and this was Rebbe Maharash's brother was the was the מחותן. The Frierdiker Rebbe married the daughter of Rabbi Avraham Schneersohn. Avraham Schneersohn was the einikel of the Tzemach Tzedek. Right. And the Rebbe married, okay not a first cousin, but married, right, they had cousins, the Frierdiker family, the Frierdiker Rebbe's daughter, who was an einikel, or einikel of the Tzemach Tzedek, and he was an or einikel of the Tzemach Tzedek. So this the Rebbe in the, all the the Rebbe's families like that. Anyway, he went now, since his kallah died, אזל איעסק ליה לבריה בי רבי יוסף בן זימרא. So now, he did the shidduch with his son with the family of Rabbi Yosef ben Zimra. With the daughter? With the daughter. Yeah, the father, with the daughter of Rabbi Yosef ben Zimra. פסקו מיתב תרתי סרי שנין, they pasak'd, and they made up before he marries her, he has 12 years למיזל לבי רב, that he could go to learn. He became a chassan to her, but he could go learn for 12 years. מיסתמא חתן? Still a chassan. After אירוסין or קידושין? It looks like after אירוסין. 12 years? 12 years. אחלפוה קמיה, that's what they made up. But they, those days when they made shidduchim, like some still do, they he didn't even see her. They just made a shidduch. They brought her that he should see her. אמר להו, after he saw her, he said, \"You know what? יתיר שית שנין. Let it be only six years.\" Let's cut it in half. When he saw her, he said, \"She's okay. I like this. Come back in six years.\" אחלפוה קמיה, they made them meet again, אמר להו, he said, \"איכניס. Let me first marry her, והדר איזיל.\" And then I'll go. In other words, he said, \"No, I want to marry her.\" Who was this? Rav, his son? No, Rebbe's son. Rebbe's. And he was marrying the daughter of Rabbi Yosef ben Zimra. הוה קא מיכסף מאבוה, but he was embarrassed of his father, as if he doesn't want to go learn right away, he wants to first marry her. אמר ליה, so he said to him, \"בני, my son, דעת קוניך דעת קוניך, I'm sorry, דעת קוניך יש בך. You're You are right. What you're thinking is the mind, the same mind of the Oibershter. כתיב, because it says, תביאמו ותטעמו. The Oibershter first, by the shirah it says, bring them in to Eretz Yisrael. ולבסוף כתיב, then it In other words, and then what does it say further? תביאמו ותטעמו and then you'll build the Beis Hamikdash. לפועל, the Oibershter couldn't hold Himself back. He said, ועשו לי מקדש ושכנתי בתוכם. In a few weeks He said right away, make a Beis Hamikdash. So same thing like you did, so don't be so bad.\" אזל, he went, יתיב תרתי סרי שני בבי רב. So he got married, and he went for 12 years afterwards to the to yeshivah. עד דאתא, איעקרא דביתהו. By the

time he got back, his wife became barren. She can't have any more children. אמר רב, said אמר רבי, so Rabbi said, \"היכי נעביד? What should we do? נגרשה, because it says if you don't have children you can't have children, you should divorce her. יאמרו, people will say, עניה זו לשוא שמרה. She waited 12 years for him, and what happened after? He divorced her? Not fair. That's It looks no good. It's not But not only people will say, it's takeh not fair! נינסיב איתתא אחריתי, let him marry another wife, יאמרו, they're going to say, זו אשתו וזו זונתו. What are they going to say? The other one is the wife and this is his זונה, because that's all she's for, because you can't have children.\" So what's the etzah? בעו עליה רחמי והבריא. So he davened and then she got healthy again. She became no more barren state, so. But these guys have such an etzah. These guys have an etzah, you know. They fixed it up! We We have it. We could try that first. Try it. I give you This sounds very anti-Yiddishkeit. This is monastic. This is, you know, sounds like what the monks do. 12 years to go away and be outside of nature and Exceptional. These are exceptions, they are exceptions. No, but we're learning them You have to know there is such a thing! You have to know there's such a thing, to go to learn if a person... Ben Azzai never got married, because נפשו חשקה בתורה, and he was allowed to. And he was allowed to. Yeah. How about the mitzvah of פריה ורביה? Well that's the thing, yeah. But most people don't have that נפשו חשקה בתורה. See, but that's that I can understand, because he's suffering, but he's not causing somebody else to have a hardship. When you go away for 12 years, But she gave permission, they made up. I know she gave permission, and people do that, but it sounds like it's on It just seems not fair. She was also in a very high madregah. She was in a very high Socially. Off track a little bit. Okay. Rabbi Chananya ben Chachinai...

Rabbi Chananya ben Chachinai, he was actually one of the עשרה הרוגי מלכות. הוה קאזיל לבי רב בשלהי הילוליה דרשב״י. He went to the yeshiva, it was at the end of the days of the sheva berachot of Rabbi Shimon ben Yochai. אמר ליה, so he said to him, \"עכב לי עד דאתי בהדך.\" So he said to wait, wait till I finish with my sheva berachot, I'm going to go with you, Rashbi said. I know that who the daughter she is, but Pinchas ben Yair's daughter. Yeah, he was a son-in-law of Pinchas ben Yair, but I don't know who what her name was. Ah? Right. He got married, but then he what? Said wait for me as soon as the sheva berachot is over, I want to go to yeshiva with you. לא עכב ליה. Wait. אזל יתיב תרי סרי שנין בבי רב. He went for 12 years to the yeshiva. עד דאתי אשתני שבילא דמתא. By the time he got back, the streets in the city changed. You know, they build up new buildings, and he couldn't ולא ידע למיזל לביתיה, he couldn't know how to get home. So he didn't know where to go. אזל יתיב אגודא דנהרא. He

came to the end of the edge of the river. שמע לההיא רביתא. He saw this girl and they called her, קרו לה בת חכינאי, בת חכינאי מלי קולתך ותא ניזיל. They said to her, \"The daughter of חכינאי, come here. We'll fill up your jug Oh, so so obviously, he said, אמר שמע מינה האי רביתא דידן. \"Must be my daughter.\" אזל בתרה. So he followed her home. הוה יתבא דביתהו קא ניילא קימחא. His wife was sitting there and sifting flour, and he followed this girl home, דל עינה. So, so she was sifting flour. דל עינה, she picked up her eyes, חזיתיה. She saw her husband, and she didn't know he was coming. סוי לבה פרחה רוחה. So her heart became, you know, like her heart saw, she she felt, and she died. And the נשמה left out. Yeah, the נשמה, yeah, פרחה נשמתה, פרחה רוחה. אמר לפניה, so he said, \"רבונו של עולם, ענייה זו שכרה, זו שכרה? She waited 12 years for me to learn, that's the reward that she's going to die?\" Again, he had an eitzah, בעא רחמי עלה וחיתה. He davened and מחיה מתים. Big deal! Who who who told him to do that? He just did it himself. Yeah! He felt himself, it's a that it's not Is it fair? Is it fair? Yeah, she did something. She did a sacrifice, and here, what's going to be the end? Because of that she'll die? So, he davened and She died! From from from shock! She saw from shock, yeah. She saw her husband come. She didn't expect him and all of a sudden he came for 12 years, so from shock, she died. So, he said, \"Is this what we're going to let her What happened?\" Why Why would you think he didn't die? He's got rachmanut. No, she got alive again. So, you could you could be happy. They died of fright. They died of fright. I mean, they didn't die, you know? They said they were No. So what did So what did he have to die What is What No. So, what did he say, רבונו של עולם, is this No, by Rav Zeira, Yeah. there, takeh, it says he died. The שחטיה, then רבה שחטיה לרב זירא. There, but he died. He actually died. Even the way the Rebbe explains it, it means he died. Yeah. Some מפרשים say, Maharsha says that he didn't die, almost died. The Rebbe says,

\"No, he takeh died.\" What does that he died? He had a רצוא without a שוב. And then he was מחיה מתים. Yeah, because he davened for him. And next year, he didn't want to go again. He said, \"Don't, not every year the miracles could happen.\" Okay, we'll stop here. And then we'll continue after Maariv with the sicha. with more miracles. Yeah. Yeah.